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r/RelationshipAdvice
I think I'm falling in love with my husband?
Posted by: KHJ_Captain
Update 2: Last update
Okay, so a lot happened, I know it's been a few days since I uploaded the update. And holy crap… I over-thought almost everything.
So, B is just one of his friends that's been having a hard time with her wife… yeah that surprised me too.
They weren't even together at all!
Okay I'll start from the beginning this time, C knows about this reddit thing, I showed him and let him read it. But for privacy reasons I'm going to continue calling him C and her B.
After I updated you guys I cried in my room for a bit. I was just trying to get it all out before I talked, I didn't want to cry and seem manipulative. So I cried, then calmly dressed, cleaned myself up and cancelled all my plans for the night, I apologized and everything.
Then I walked towards C’s office, I admit I almost chickened out and ran back to my room. I'm so glad I didn't.
After knocking on the door and stepping in, C looked surprised, but also relieved that I was there—which was shocking to me at first.
He stood up and walked over to me and asked me if I was okay, that he hadn't really seen me and had assumed it was because finals were coming up. That he didn't want to interrupt my studying time because he knew how snappy some people could get.
And I admit, that's fair enough because in the past I have occasionally snapped at him for interrupting my studying time. I always apologized after though because I know he's trying to help.
Apparently C had been monitoring my schedule from my planner, trying to figure out how to talk to me on a day where I wasn't going to pass out as soon as I got home. And considering everything I've been doing the past few weeks, he couldn't find time.
We went to the living room after that and sat down to talk, I told him about the reddit story and let him read it. I wanted to tell him myself but at this point I couldn't even speak without thinking about crying.
Because C did care, he was trying to figure out how to talk to me, but since I was avoiding him I kept the distance between us instead of working and talking through it.
After C read both of them he tossed my phone to the side and pulled me into his chest. I was surprised by it, but all he said was “I’m sorry, I'm so sorry.” Over and over again.
I ended up holding onto him trying not to cry because of how overwhelming all this was.
It took a few minutes for me to realize C was crying too, still whispering how sorry he was.
We stayed on the couch for about 15 minutes, holding each other to calm down. Just trying to breathe so we could figure out how to talk to each other like husbands rather than casual friends for once.
We untangled each other and both of us took a deep breath, he laughed a little and shook his head. “So about B,” he sighed and glanced down at the ground before he looked back at me, “B is an old friend of mine, she's married and her and wife have been arguing a lot. She just needed someone to talk to.”
I was shocked, but mostly embarrassed that I jumped to conclusions so quickly. I didn't even asked, I just assumed it.
“I should've told you, and yeah, the comments are right. Bad timing on my part, we… we need to communicate better with each other.” His voice got shaky, but serious. He looked almost afraid, though at the time I didn't know why. Until he said, “I love you too by the way. I have for a while, I just didn't think you'd love me too.”
I was shocked and confused and overwhelmed by everything.
I'ma skip the rest of the sappy stuff, cause we ended up kissing for the first time, talking about stupid things we did over the years, and when we first started feeling love for each other. Then we got ready for dinner with B.
B is actually a really nice girl; I can see why she and C are friends. I apologized to her for freaking out last time I met her.
We ended up staying in the same bedroom that night; neither of us wanted to let go.
When we woke up we talked more, ate breakfast while he jokingly flirted with me. We went out on a lunch date, and I told him about the stress from finals coming up.
That's how things went the past few days. I realized I need to start talking about my feelings more, even if it's overwhelming at the time. C said he was going to make more time for me, and started taking a few more days off of work every once in a while.
I guess I still have some things to figure out before C and I do anything major together. We’re going to try couples counseling. Not because our relationship is bad or we're arguing.
We both agreed to go so we could communicate better without me being too stressed or overwhelmed. And without him thinking, he's hurting me by talking to me.
We start next week.
Thank you to everyone who read and helped me, and that made both of us realize we need to communicate better! C and I really appreciate it, thank you. Also, now I realize just how dramatic this was, damn.
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Comments:
Wo0y0_yang: Bro?! All this because he didn’t tell you he was just helping out a friend. I’m sorry, I’m glad you guys are okay and that neither want a contract marriage anymore, but dude just needed to say, “B this is my husband, Op, this is my FRIEND.” I’m done, great story to read, and I’m so glad everything worked out, but you went through so much, Glad you’re better.
KoyA_j0on: Well, that took a 180… I was not expecting that, it was his friend??? Wow, though, to be fair B didn’t really help since she never said they weren’t together. But it does make sense that she already knew about your guys' situation.
LeeK_Bit: talk about a plot twist. Wow, that was dramatic. But also I’m glad everything's okay now, and you guys are official official!
j!Ji_qu0kKa: Bro the gasp I let out was loud, like the fact that they weren’t even dating, and it was just terrible timing amazes me. Then again ig thats what we get for overthinking all this.
hWadDe0ng: Well now I feel bad for saying to be petty, he really is a good guy! Maybe I just need to chill, damn– my bad C!
Puppy_MinMin: Well damn, that was dramatic, but then again not talking to each other creates drama, so this thing had a moral at the end of it.
↳ M!ngM1ng00: LMAO, was not at all expecting that, but yeah. Glad you’re okay OP! And that you and C are going to work on communicating.
f0x1.ny: okay- so yeah, he was a green flag this whole time, also i think its super healthy that the two of you are going to stay together and are going to work on not only yourselves, but your relationship!
j1m_Ch!mmy56: Glad it wasn’t a test tho
↳ Wo0y0_yang: My bad :((((
Co0ky_JK87: Lesson learned, communication is important.