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r/tifu
u/mcr_riot • 12d
TIFU for implying my friend is in love with his best friend before he realized it himself.
Before we start, I have to say I haven’t used Reddit since middle school, so I’m not sure if I’m doing this right.
I (17M) have a close friend (17M) who may or may not be in love with his best friend. I implied as such when talking to him, and he looked genuinely surprised before shutting me down completely.
My close friend, let’s call him K, has never openly stated his sexuality or his love life. Granted, he’s never been in a relationship before and has never shown interest in others until recently, (or so I thought?)
I won’t go into detail since it’s not relevant to my own mistake, but I’m worried I fucked up when I brought up these recent signs of possible interest to him.
K is someone who rarely opens up about his feelings and personal thoughts, either you figure it out yourself based on body language, or pry it out of him.
It wasn’t my place to force anything on him, but as a friend, I genuinely couldn’t tell if he was interested in his best friend romantically, but I asked because if he was, he would have someone to talk to about it.
But like I said earlier, when I (and a few other close friends) brought it up subtly, he looked at us with genuine surprise before shutting the idea down, clearly uncomfortable.
I myself am a part of the LGBTQ+ community, and my close friend knows this. We have multiple other LGBTQ+ friends as well, so I know his discomfort is not homophobia or anything.
But it also doesn’t help that after we brought this up, he started to act differently. It’s not obvious to people who don’t know him well, but it’s clear something is bothering him.
I love K a lot, we’ve been through a lot of things together, and I’m his friend before anything else. I never want to be the cause of his distress, and I want to be someone he trusts.
Did I fuck up by implying romantic interest, ruining his friendship with his own best friend in the process?
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u/sodapopwheeler:
K may not be homophobic, but he might be uncomfortable with being perceived as gay
↳ u/mcr_riot replied:
A few of my friends thought it’s a possibility, but it also just didn’t seem like something that would bother him. He’s not the type of guy to care, but I could be wrong?
↳ u/gojostoenail replied:
Maybe he’s uncomfortable with being perceived as gay because he IS gay. LOL.
u/allmightiest:
You probably shouldn’t have said anything. Nobody likes being seen as gay with their best friend, that’s weird.
↳ u/Destiel_hoe replied:
i mean, the implication that you may like someone you don’t is uncomfortable, but why did you say it like this??
↳ u/allmightiest replied:
Get over it, not everyone is gay.
u/IwaoiCanon:
He’s probably just gay and in denial.
u/snoopyloveclub:
While things didn’t go the way you planned, you had good intentions, OP. You just wanted to help your friend, but I suggest apologizing to clear the air with him
↳ u/wolfstar_luvr replied:
I agree with this! If you guys are close, just apologize. It’s the right thing to do.
↳ u/mcr_riot replied:
I’m gonna apologize for getting involved in his business when I shouldn’t have tmr. Thanks!
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r/lgbt
u/electrobolt • 10d
One of my close friends is totally in love with his best friend and he’s in denial. I’m going insane.
“no OP, don’t push it! let him realize on his own terms”
trust me, i’ve heard it already from others who have noticed his gay pining, but think it’s best we stay out of it.
and don’t worry, i will. not only because i consider myself a wonderful friend, but also because my close friend has a very powerful quirk and he scares me.
but i need to rant, let me rant. please redditors of r/lgbt, let me tell you all.
let’s call “close friend”, Cat. Just cause it’s close to his real name, it’s funny, and this is anonymous so he’ll never know i’m referring to him as “Cat” like the cute little animal, on the internet.
so Cat is a bit of an aggressive guy, you could say. it’s not an issue, me and all of our friends know it’s just for show, and we would say something if it actually bothered us.
but what DOES bother me is how endearingly he insults his best friend. Cat will call him a vile insult or fling an accusation at him with hearts in eyes.
he will call his best friend an idiot with the same voice you would use on a baby kitten. he does not do this for anyone else in his life. trust me on this, please.
and while i won’t elaborate further, we are all heroes in training, so we’ve been in quite a few dangerous situations.
Cat has thrown himself into danger for the sake of his best friend. he has gotten impaled in vital organs for his best friend. hello?
and then he has the nerve.. the goddamn NERVE to say that he hates him and wants to kill him. what.
don’t get me started on when he indulges him more than anyone else. like i said before, Cat is a bit of an aggressive guy. stubborn, headstrong, and doesn’t take shit from anyone.
he’ll indulge all of us (our friends) once in a while because even though he’s never said it, he likes all of our company. i’ve learned denial is kind of his go-to thing LOL.
but his best friend? he can never say no. his best friend asks to do something, he’ll pretend to sit and think, throw in a stupid insult, and then say yes like he wasn’t planning on saying yes before his best friend even asked anyway.
Cat also just sits there with a dumb constipated look on his face whenever his best friend compliments him, like it’s not something the guy does 24/7 anyway.
so when a few of us tried to subtly bring it up, he totally looked at us like we all grew 3 heads and sprouted rainbows out our asses.
like he thinks WE’RE crazy for thinking he just MIGHT be in love with his best friend, but HE’S the one who knows the exact amount of freckles his best friend has on his face. and yelled at one of our classmates when he got the amount wrong.
sorry shakesqueer, not all of us are madly in love with our best friends and know the exact times they took a shit on December 16, 2011.
i’m so sick. i’m done. if god really is homophobic then he needs to hurry up and strike Cat down already before i do something i will seriously regret.
UPDATE: for all of those who are curious for an update, i can confirm something has shifted. i could not quite tell you what, but trust me. Something in the air is different…
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u/hawks_drider:
LMAO? this was such a rollercoaster to read.
↳ u/electrobolt replied:
imagine living it.
u/satosugu69:
nothing gay here folks, just a couple of homies dying for each other.
↳ u/tswiftnation replied:
historians will call them just brothers
u/Andreilist:
i don’t like assuming sexualities or anything but… ur friend is literally homotron 3000
u/Destiel_hoe:
wait lolll i think i just saw another post similar to this on r/tifu ?? or maybe i’m crazy
↳ u/electrobolt replied:
wait, nobody move. send link.
↳ u/Destiel_hoe replied:
https://open.reddit.com/album/0EiI8ylL0F
↳ u/electrobolt replied:
NO FUCKING WAY
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r/confession
u/DynaMurder 9d
I think I might have feelings for my best friend but I also can’t let that happen.
For starters, I fucking hate this godforsaken app. But I also rather stick my head in a canon and kill myself before admitting this to anyone I know in real life, so here we are.
I’m a 17 year old male, and I think I might have feelings for my friend, who is 17 years old, also male.
This isn’t stupid shit like internalized homophobia or anything, I’m gay, and I’ve known I’m gay for years.
But I was never gay for my friend. Atleast, that’s what I thought until a couple of my people I’m close with implied that I’m showing interest in said friend. That I might have feelings.
Immediately shut them down, that’s crazy. I would never like my friend, and he would never like me. Our relationship just isn’t like that.
But after they brought it up I started to think about it more and yeah, the world came crashing down.
Not because I had feelings for my friend but because my other friends were right for assuming so before I even realized it myself. How the hell did they know when they’re never right about anything. Fuck them, seriously.
I’m also pretty sure they’re all walking on thin ice around me now, which they don’t have to because to be clear, they didn’t do anything wrong. But I’ll let them stew with it for a bit because it’s funny as hell.
Anyway, normally I would say fuck it and just confess or whatever because nobody has time for uselessly pining after someone who has no idea you even like them. That’s sad.
The only issue is that I don’t think I should. My friend and I have a complicated past and I won’t go into detail because frankly, it’s not Reddit’s business at all, I hate you all.
But due to my own weaknesses, I would push him away and it would result in insults and physical violence at some times.
I’m still currently trying to atone for my actions, and I’ll never be able to forget the way I treated him. But my friend has also made it clear that we’re friends, and that the way I used to treat him no longer bothers him either.
The two of us have gone through a lot of serious shit together, and he’s probably the closest person in my life as much as I hate to admit it.
My friend himself rips his heart open for others constantly, always putting their needs above his own. I don’t want to push my feelings onto him and make it feel obligatory.
He would never lie to me nor make it awkward for either of us, but I would constantly feel undeserving of our relationship if it were to continue because of everything we want through. Would that even be fair to him?
And yeah, I’m not the type of coward to avoid this kind of thing but it’s gnawing away at me. So there’s that.
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u/Sasukesuchiha:
Amen brother this experience is kinda niche but you’ve found the right audience.
u/buddiereal:
have you ever brought this up to your friend? if you don’t tell anyone, especially your friend, this guilt is gonna follow u for awhile anyway
↳ u/midwestprincesschappell replied:
This!! Even if you two never even get together, it’s clear you still hold some guilt. This will affect ur friendship
↳ u/DynaMurder replied:
I rather kill myself if we’re being honest.
u/Destiel_hoe:
no way… is this K/Cat
↳ u/DynaMurder replied:
What the fuck did you just call me?
↳ tswiftnation replied:
omg wait ik what ur talking abt im literally connecting the dots rn
u/kevinday4L:
I think you should talk to someone else about this, sort out your feelings, and then talk to your friend
↳ u/peach.yogurt replied:
you do realize he wasn’t asking for advice?? this is a confess subreddit
↳ u/kevinday4L replied:
Girl who the hell cares
u/kookie97:
thx for the fanfic idea :P
↳ u/DynaMurder replied:
What.
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r/advice
u/todozuko.1
My best friends both like each other but refuse to say it. Should I lock them in a room together?
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u/capt_holt:
the lack of extra context is hilarious. pls do this.
u/freebreeze:
It might be tempting but you should probably let them realize on their own terms
↳ u/electrobolt replied:
ignore this guy, totally do it. i understand how it feels
u/electrobolt:
wait LOLL is this who i think it is…
↳ u/todozuko.1 replied:
My friend, Uraraka, made this username for me so I would be anonymous?
↳ u/electrobolt replied:
im actually crying hi roki