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- She’s so happy to have a baby with you! Be it from IVF, adoption, or anything else, she’s over the damn moon.
- Third most prepared, just behind Curly! Since it took the most planning to get to this point, she’s had time to prepare.
- The following three points are just assuming you go through something like IVF
- She’d come to all appointments with you 100%. She takes her role as mom important even before the baby comes.
- Probably has a couple baby books, just the most complete and popular books.
- When it comes time to give birth she’s anxious as hell. She doesn’t want to see you in pain. She holds your hand and smoothes your hair out while you push, push, push. Doesn’t do initial skin to skin contact, she wants you to take your entire time with the baby.
- Coming home with the baby she’s amazed that something so wonderful happened. She’ll sit in the nursery and just stroke their lil cheek while they sleep. The nursery is furnished with few things.
- Probably develops postpartum anxiety.
- Probably buys up newborn to one year books.
- The first birthday is amazing, she invites her family and one or two mutual friends. The baby has a smash cake and she buys a small cake for the rest of the guests!
- Great mom! She learns as she goes, asks questions to professionals, and communicates with you!
CURLY
- It’s definitely a planned pregnancy, he takes family planning very seriously.
- Second most prepared! Like I said, he takes this super seriously.
- Appointment? Say no more. He’s there. He definitely cries the first time you get an abdominal ultrasound.
- 100% the kind of dad to buy up a bunch of baby rearing books and read them all, highlight in them, etc. He cannot get enough. He also joins dad to be forums and shit lol.
- He takes your labor as serious as a heart attack, he asks questions to the nurses and obgyn, holds your hand, this man DOES NOT SLEEP!! He will hold your hand, dab your face with a wet cloth, do anything in his power to comfort you while you’re pushing. 100% a skin-to-skin contacter after you do your time with the baby! No doubt that he cuts the cord.
- He keeps glancing in the rearview mirror on the way home to make sure the baby doesn’t tip over.
- No nursery for the first few months, he’ll have the bassinet and then crib in the bedroom. That being said, the nursery is definitely full of stuff that’s both needed and shit that’ll never be used.
- Baby blues! I definitely see his depression getting worse even if the baby is super easy.
- 100% buys those "what to expect the first year” type books.
- The first birthday is planned to the T. It’s a decent sized get together, Curly has a lot of close friends! Smash cake 100%. Half chocolate and half vanilla cake for guests
- Amazing father! He loves you both so much, you’re both his entire universe.
DAISUKE
- Unplanned, oopsies. But Daisuke takes to the role very quickly!
- Genuinely back and forth between who would be the least prepared, Daisuke or Jimmy. I figured Daisuke would be more prepared than Jimmy mostly because he still has familial support. So Daisuke slides in at fourth most prepared!
- He comes to all your appointments except for the first ultrasound where it’s transvaginal. Something about it just makes him uncomfortable.
- He doesn’t buy up books, he relies on his family for information. He asks his mom a bunch of questions and his dad will take him aside a lot to talk one on one.
- He’s scared shitless when you go into labor, he’s unable to sleep but he does find the chair comfortable. He’ll hold your hand while you push, he definitely winces when you squeeze it tightly lol. He won’t do skin-to-skin, but he’ll definitely hold the baby. He cuts the cord.
- Has his mom or dad drive you guys back to your apartment so he can sit in the back along with the baby! He’s overwhelmed with love for the tiny lil thing!
- There’s no room for a nursery in your apartment so the baby stays in their crib in your bedroom.
- Postpartum anxiety and depression. It’s a lot for him to handle!
- He joins a few subreddits for new dads and parents
- First birthday is your family, his family, and closest mutual friends. Absolutely gets that baby a smash cake! Cupcakes for him and you, small cake for the rest of the guests!
- Great dad, he’s doing his best and learning as he goes. He leans on his parents a normal amount, asks them questions and they help you both out by watching the baby when you guys need a break.
JIMMY
- Okay okay okay so… It’d either be completely unplanned (or as unplanned as condom free sex can be) or he’d intentionally work to get you pregnant as a way to exert power and tie you to him. This is done super impulsively.
- The least prepared even if it’s done intentionally. He doesn’t have a family to fall back on like Daisuke does and even if he did he’d be too proud to ask for help.
- Appointments with this man… He definitely sees it as a why should I be there type of thing. The closer it gets to your due date, the more likely it is for him attend. He knows it’ll make him look bad if he misses them all.
- Jimmy, at the most, joins a subreddit or two for new and expecting dad. He might google questions he has, but eh…
- He’s the type to fall asleep in the chair while you’re in pain sorry lol. That’s not to say he’s emotionless, he’s just tired and it’s not like he can actually do anything. When it comes time for you push, he does 100% hold your hand. He doesn’t cut the cord, but he will hold the baby shirtless for skin to skin contact after you have your moment.
- He’ll have to be reminded to not have the music for the baby’s lil ears.
- No nursery, crib in bedroom.
- Postpartum psychosis. It takes a lot to get him to accept he needs help!
- Doesn’t get new books or anything.
- First birthday is the baby, you two, and Curly. Doesn’;t get a designated smash cake, he instead cuts that lil baby a slice of cake and lets them go to town lol.
- He’s a pretty bad dad at the beginning, but things do level out. He’ll never be like Curly or anything, but I don’t think you need to be told that, do you? You love him as he is.
SWANSEA
- Definitely planned, he doesn’t really mess around when it comes to bringing a new being to this bitch of an earth.
- Most prepared, it’s not even close. He already has adult children and I headcanon he wasn’t a totally absent father even if I hc him as being divorced.
- He’ll attend every other appointment, but he’ll definitely drive you to them all!
- He doesn’t see the point in baby books and this man doesn’t use reddit lol.
- He’s been through this before so he knows what’s needed and what isn’t. That’s not to say that he sees it as just another birth or a chore though. He’ll stay awake, sleep when you’re able to, hold your hand and help you breathe. He cuts the cord. He doesn’t do skin-to-skin.
- Drives home, has you sit in the back with the baby.
- Nursery, bassinet and then to a crib. The nursery is as furnished as it needs to be, he’s pretty well adept on what he needs and doesn’t need. That being said, since things have changed since he had his first two kids he does have to take some advice from you on new standards.
- Doesn’t have anything like PPD, PPA, OR PPP.
- If he didn’t get books before, he definitely doesn’t now
- First birthday is a pretty small get together! Family, maybe a couple friends, that’s all. Doesn’t see the point in a smash cake, he’ll give them a piece of the cake he bought for everyone.
- Good dad, middle of the road. Not like Curly, not like Jimmy.