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r/AmIOverreacting · Posted by u/burnerburner68 1 hour ago.

AIO about my friend’s friend’s behavior?

Advice

On my burner so neither of them find this. For context, I (19F) and my best friend’s friend (18M) are both really close to our mutual friend (17M), but I’ve known him longer. Since childhood. Friend's friend didn't show up until middle school. I've never liked this guy, but I tolerated him for my friend. They play a game with a few other friends twice every week, and sometimes I like to sit in and play with them as well. I was the one who originally introduced my friend to this game, but I never was as obsessed with it as he got. I love playing it, and I'm pretty good at it too, but this guy always insists that because I'm a girl, I shouldn't be playing it? Which makes no sense, because another player in their group is a girl, but I digress.

He has made a bunch of weird comments like this before. He's always super passive aggressive when we talk, and in all honesty I think he might be gay for our mutual friend with how possessive he gets about him. Nobody ever comments on his behavior except for me, and I would like to reiterate, I only tolerate him for my best friend, so when he makes misogynistic comments such as these, I usually just ignore him or threaten to chop his balls off. This past weekend, though, he went too far. He seemed to already be upset when he walked in, and he soured even more when he saw me there. He started loudly complaining to one of the other players about "females trying to insert themselves into everything" and how we "should just stick to the kitchen" and other comments along these lines. I was sick of it, so I spent most of the gaming session sabotaging the things he did. I will admit, it was a dick move, but he had been asking for it for months. Halfway through the game, he got fed up with how I was playing, and he demanded that our mutual friend kick me out of the session. I objected, of course, and our mutual friend asked him to calm down, which did not happen. He decided instead to get out of his chair and attempt to physically drag me out of the session.

This is where I may have overreacted: I punched him in the face. His nose was bleeding and everything. I really didn’t mean to, but I’ve taken self-defence classes and my instincts kicked in. Obviously everyone was shocked at this, and the session ended. Our mutual friend is on my side, and it’s been making this guy pout, but the other members of the group keep telling me that I overreacted and I wanted other opinions. Thanks.

TL;DR I punched a guy over his misogyny and ruined a session of a game.

EDIT: I’m a lesbian. I don’t have feelings for our mutual friend, who is gay. Stop suggesting this shit.

EDIT 2: If you saw the way this guy interacted with our mutual friend you would understand my comment about him being gay. Stop mentioning that part.

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r/AskArtists · Posted by u/burnerburner68 62 days ago.

Quality paints?

Advice

My favorite paint brand changed their recipe recently. Does anyone have any recs for high quality but affordable paints? Should I just suck it up and use the changed recipe?

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r/DnD · Posted by u/SolduerHero4 7 days ago.

Custom dice?

Are custom dice a stupid gift to get someone who already has like 20 sets? His bday is coming up soon so I need advice asap. I know he loves dice but idk if he'd ever use it with how many he has

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r/AmITheAsshole · Posted by u/SolduerHero4 34 days ago.

AITA for not wearing pantaloons?

For context I (M18) and my best friend (M17) LARP with some of our other friends a couple times a month. I usually wear the costumes but this time I wasn't really feeling it. so I refused the pantaloons in the costume. I told him I was gonna wear my jeans and he could whine all he wanted but I wasn't gonna budge on wearing those ugly things. For whatever reason this upset my friend and he was pouting about it and he said if I wasn't wearing the pantaloons I had to at least give my character a voice, which I also refused. He started making a huge deal out of it and I decided I was just gonna go home instead.

Now our friends aren't talking to me. They're all telling me I was a dick and I should've just done one or the other so I didn't ruin the fun. I don't get why me not doing something so stupid ruined any sort of fun because I still tried to participate in the roleplay. So AITA?

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r/VintageFashion · Posted by u/burnerburner68 1 yr ago.

[HELP] Need new places to shop

Advice

I live in the middle of nowhere, anyone have tips on finding more 70s vintage pieces? Preferably places in the midwest, like the Indiana-Ohio-Kentucky-Illinois area. My local thrift store never has anything good or useful.

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r/lgbt · Posted by u/burnerburner68 2 yrs ago.

Talking it out.

Relationships

I don't need advice, I just want to talk. I (17F) am a lesbian. I have known this girl, L (17F) for a few years now, and I've liked her for most of that time. She's bright, funny, and charismatic. She's always willing to lend an ear, and her and I have fun together. I never have more fun than when I'm with her. She is beautiful, too. Like, blindingly. It was inevitable that I'd fall for her.

I'm sure you could guess where this was going. She's straight. She's also religious, which adds that extra layer of it's not happening. I know it's stupid, but I keep holding out hope. Like, one day she's just going to wake up and realize that she's gay, and that I'm the girl for her. Yeah, as if. She'll look at me when she thinks I'm not looking sometimes, but that's just how she is. It's so pointless to hope it means anything, but I can't help myself. I want to be her reason to smile, and her reason to keep going, y'know? The way she is for me. She's my muse, and she'll never know it. It just sucks, I guess. I guess that was the point of this. I'll probably end up deleting it. Whatever. Thanks for reading if you got this far.

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r/rock · Posted by u/SolduerHero4 3 mo. ago.

Black Flag Album ranking

Clearly Loose Nut is on top. Then My War and Slip It In are tied for second, then Damaged, THEN Family Man. Not up for debate

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r/lgbt · Posted by u/SolduerHero4 6 mo. ago.

How big of a deal

Question

I'm not gay but if I was it wouldnt be that big of a deal right I have a few gay friends and they're fairly normal people. It wouldn't change anything would it

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