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⏾ : Remus really likes spending time with you. He has been through a lot in his life and has lost many close to him, so naturally, he’s learned to value the people in his life. He has someone in his life who loves him (you), so he wants to spend every possible moment with you.
⏾ : He naturally has a very comforting energy around him; he doesn’t personally think he does, and maybe that’s his insecurities getting to him, but you definitely feel it. Whenever you’re feeling under the weather, Remus tries his best to help. If you’re sick, he’ll make sure you’re comfortable in bed and will bring you whatever you need. If you’ve just had a rough day, he’ll do his best to cheer you up. Being around Remus, especially after having a long/rough day, can instantly fix your mood.
⏾ : He also has a way with words, and he’s very good at providing verbal comfort as well. He’s not sure where it came from, maybe it’s from reading a lot, but he seems to always know exactly what to say to make your heart flutter or how to comfort you when you’re having a problem. He gives lots of good advice and encourages you to love and take care of yourself. Sometimes you wish he would follow his own advice because he, too, needs to take better care of himself and practice more self-love.
⏾ : Aside from all the comforting words, he also just enjoys telling you how much he loves you, as well as complimenting your physical appearance and other sweet things. “You look so beautiful, love.” “I love my beautiful girl.” “I don’t know how I got so lucky.”
⏾ : Remus also likes to uplift you by saying he’s proud of you, even if you haven’t done much. “I’m so proud of you, sweetheart.” “You’re doing a great job, love.”
⏾ : He uses a lot of pet names when addressing you, more than he uses your actual name. He usually calls you things like "love," "dear," and "sweetheart." He loves it when you use sweet pet names on him as well. He’ll also never get tired of his old nickname, Moony.
⏾ : He’s a good listener, too, and likes to listen to you talk about your interests. He loves the sound of your voice and finds it sweet when you're passionate about something.
⏾ : Remus has always been a bit touch-starved, to say the least, but he would never admit that. His whole life, he’s pushed relationships away out of fear of not being good enough or being judged for his lycanthropy, so when he finally found someone he felt loved and comfortable around, he just wanted to be held.
⏾ : He enjoys all types of physical affection. Little things like gentle touches and caresses go a long way for him, but of course, he also enjoys kisses, cuddles, handholding, etc. He loves having his face cupped in your hand while you say sweet things to him.
⏾ : When you cuddle, he’s usually the big spoon, because he enjoys wrapping his arms around you from behind and being able to kiss the back of your neck and shoulders, but he doesn’t mind being the little spoon from time to time as well.
⏾ : He likes to hold you in his lap while he does basic things like read, have his morning coffee, drink his evening tea, or just sit comfortably doing nothing else but talking.
⏾ : Remus loves hugs. He’ll come up behind you while you're standing doing something, just to wrap his arms around you, kissing the top of your head and resting his head on your shoulder while watching over what you’re doing. You feel so nice in his arms, and he likes the way it feels when he holds your waist. He loves it when you give him random hugs just for the sake of being sweet too.
⏾ : After his transformations, he’s quite sore since they take a massive toll on the body, so he appreciates when you give him back and shoulder rubs. He thinks hand massages are nice too, especially when he’s spent a lot of time writing (I headcanon that he likes to journal and write), and back when he worked as a Defense Against the Dark Arts professor at Hogwarts and would have to grade assignments, his hands would get crampy. (I also headcanon Remus as someone who gets muscle cramps very easily.) He would lose his mind if you gave him a massage while saying sweet things to him and kissing him.
⏾ : He’s a chronic nail-biter, so it’s nice when you hold his hands or allow him to keep his hands occupied by letting him touch you so he doesn’t bite his nails.
⏾ : He’s also a lip chewer as much as he is a nail biter, which often leads to his lips getting chapped, yet even with that, Remus still somehow has very kissable lips. It’s so easy to kiss him and instantly melt into it. Kissing Remus can go from sweet, gentle kisses to a rough makeout session in a matter of seconds because he’s just that enjoyable to kiss.
⏾ : Remus never thought he’d be the type to settle down long-term until he met you. It took him a while to propose to you, despite it being something he had thought about a lot. He was mostly worried about you saying no, as well as his own personal baggage and lycanthropy being a problem, even with you assuring him you love him no matter what. He’d be a very loyal husband and partner in general.
⏾ : When it comes to having your actual wedding, Remus would prefer to have a small one with close friends and family; you’d be in charge of invites since Remus isn’t close with many people. If you didn’t have many people to invite either, he’d be more than okay with having a private wedding with just the two of you, but if you really wanted a large wedding, he’d be willing to go along with it just to keep you happy despite it not really being his thing. Just try to keep the budget reasonable.
⏾ : His lycanthropy plays a role in his complicated feelings when it comes to having children. He likes the idea of having a family and would be a good father (he gives total girl dad vibes, and it’s not up for debate), but he still doubts himself. Not only is he worried about how his lycanthropy could affect any future children of his, but he also hates the idea of leaving you to parent alone whenever he has to leave for his transformations. He’d also go out of his way to go somewhere further than he normally would, and even make you double-lock the door. Even though he uses wolfsbane to help with his transformation, he isn’t risking ANYTHING!
⏾ : Lycanthropy aside, he also has all the normal fears that come with becoming a parent for the first time. When he found out you were pregnant (if you choose to have children this way), he was stressing. Not that he was angry with you or upset at the news, just extremely nervous and overthinking everything. He does try his best to take care of you through the whole thing.
⏾ : If you did actually end up having children, he would quickly learn that he’s more than capable of being a good father. Though he still has his doubts and is still extremely nervous on the days leading up to the full moon, at least you can truthfully reassure him that he’s doing great because the proof is right there. You can always remind him that the reason he worries so much is because he genuinely cares.
⏾ : Due to his transformations, he was nervous about moving in together. He has no problems coming over to your place or inviting you over to spend the night with you, but in the days leading up to the full moon, he starts to get a bit nervous about being around you, especially once the sun starts to set. Not only does the approaching full moon make him a bit irritable, and he doesn’t like being in a mad mood around you, but he also has a fear of accidentally getting the date of the full moon wrong, despite paying very close attention to it, or forgetting to take his wolfsbane potion. Remus’s fear of accidentally hurting someone, especially you, makes him feel ill and sometimes leads him to push the ones he loves away. Because of this, it is important that you give him a lot of reassurance.
⏾ : Sharing a bed with Remus can be either the best or the worst thing. He tends to spread out, which is fine if you like to lie on his chest or hug him while you sleep, but if you don’t, you might not have a lot of space. Normally, he stays still for most of the night, but on the nights leading up to the full moon, he has a lot of trouble sleeping and is very restless, so he tends to toss and turn a lot, which can be a bit annoying. He’s also a light sleeper, so you have to be very careful not to wake him up if, for whatever reason, you need to get up in the middle of the night or before he wakes up.
⏾ : He is very protective of you (and your children if you choose to have any), but not in a toxic, jealous, or controlling way. Remus is not the type to get jealous over meaningless stuff, even when he’s feeling insecure, because he knows he can trust you. He just really cares about you and your safety and well-being. It’s why he worries so much about how his transformations might affect you and why he wants you to take care of yourself.
⏾ : Remus tries his best to be helpful around the house, whether it be cleaning or setting the table for dinner. He would never allow you to handle all the housework by yourself. He’s also always willing to help run errands on a whim if he’s not busy. If he sees you have a large to-do list, he’ll try to help shorten it without even needing to be asked.
⏾ : He’s not great at things like cooking, though, as he’s never really been one to take the best care of himself, mostly living off junk and takeout or just skipping meals as a whole, so he leaves food plans up to you. If you’re not good at cooking either, it’s back to takeout and TV dinners. He wouldn’t be against trying to learn, especially if you wanted to learn together; it could be a cute couples activity. Ideally, having homemade meals would be the best, considering it's the most cost-effective, and Remus doesn’t have the most money in the world.
⏾ : Despite Remus not having a lot, he still tries his best to gift you things whenever he can. He wishes he could do more for you, but to be honest, his gifts mean so much more knowing he puts in the effort to save up to get them for you. He remembers putting every last bit of his leftover money aside after paying his bills and basic living expenses just to get you an engagement ring he deemed good enough for you.
⏾ : Aside from tracking moon cycles to remember when the next full moon is, Remus is kind of forgetful, but the one thing he makes sure to never miss is your birthday or anniversary. He knows how horrible that would make you feel, so those dates are the first thing he writes on any calendar. He always tries to get you something nice as a gift or at least make some special plans.
⏾ : Despite being more of a homebody, Remus tries to plan somewhat interesting or sweet dates, but most of your date nights end up being at home on the couch, either playing a board game or just being more affectionate with each other than usual. He doesn’t mind going out for drinks or food occasionally. He enjoys shopping with you as well; even if you don’t end up buying anything, he doesn't mind browsing.
⏾ : Remus takes a lot of walks, especially when he needs to clear his head or let off some steam, but he really likes it when you join him. He loves holding your hand while you walk together, either in comfortable silence or while making small talk.
⏾ : He likes the rain, whether it's light rainfall or a full-blown thunderstorm. Whenever there is a storm, he enjoys cuddling in silence while you listen to the sounds of the rain together. If you're bothered by loud noises, leading you to be upset over the thunder, he’ll give you a lot of reassurance and hold you extra tight.
⏾ : He hates arguments; nothing good comes of them, so he avoids them. He would rather sit down and talk things out if a problem arises and make sure to be sweet and comforting during the conversation, giving you kisses and holding you close to him while you talk. Remus knows how irritable he can get around the full moon, so he tries to avoid any sort of conflict around that time, because he doesn’t want to accidentally snap and say something he regrets. Also, arguing runs the risk of making you upset, and if he ever made you upset, especially if you cried, he’d beat himself up over it for weeks. Overall, Remus tries to handle any disagreement as reasonably as possible.