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I didn’t do this chapter initially, because I don’t like to preach at you guys. I try hard not to. I wrote it because I could understand why people might be nervous to ask for resources (I certainly am). So, there are a lot of explanations in this chapter, and I worked hard to not preach in any of this. Consent video is first(because I think it’s the most important), sex pos videos are second(because talk about any kind of sex or relationships should be open), and asexual is last. I did my very best to just explain things to y’all.
All the links open in the same tab, because I couldn't set them up differently. Sorry about that.
Consent Video is here. It’s about consent, and it is amazing. It uses the epic tea analogy. I put it in, because Natasha changed her mind about having sex with Maria, and that’s fine. That whole thing was done deliberately, and it is deliberate that the fic about whether or not they will continue to have sex, because asexuals live different sex lives.
Sex Positive Things:
I talk a lot about sex positivity and some of y’all may not know what that is. Sex positivity is about be open about sex, gender, and relationships. It’s thinking more of a “we should tell kids that sex can be awesome but they have to be careful and use protection and think”, and less of the “sex will make you pregnant and you will die”(which ignores gender and sexuality spectrums.) Sex positivity is about doing things like not slut-shaming other people, accepting different levels of sexual activity so long as they do not harm other people.
Sex positivity is not defined as having lots of sex or forcing other people into having sex. This makes it perfectly awesome for the asexual community to be sex positive. It’s like saying “dude it is awesome if you want to go eat that cake. I support the right for you to eat as much cake and still be healthy. I just don’t want that cake right now”.
(it’s funny, because the asexuality community loves cake-it’s a thing)
Laci Green is an amazing person to check out for more info about sex positive tops. Her video on how abstinence does not work is located here. Sexplanations is another awesome channel to check out(right here). Dr. Doe talks about a lot of cool things and most of her videos are Sex Education (the medically accurate way).
Hannah Witton’s video about slut-shaming, and the term ‘slut’. She also does a lot of things about Sex Pos.
I found this dude, zefrank who did a video about how couples should sit down and just have a night to ask questions about sex without having to feel embarrassed or judgement. It’s where I got inspired talking openly about asexuality, and the conversations that took place in this fic.
Asexual Things:
http://www.asexuality.org/home/overview.html (AVEN: Asexual Visability and Education Network- Asexual 101 guides) Personally, I think this is the best resorce, because it is created by asexuals, and it does talk about the different degrees of asexuality. The 101 guides are right here.
Ashley Mandel did this awesome video about how bisexuals can feel outcasted by the LGTB community, because they’re not strange enough. I thought it sort of applies to gray asexuals.
Laci Green’s video on asexuality: here.
D-New’s video on asexuality. It’s about the documentary ‘(A)sexual’. It does take a little about the history about asexual, and the different views on asexuality, and yes, it does have Laci Green.
Girlfriend’s Tv’s asexual playlist. It covers things like the difference between demisexuality and asexuality, seven myths about asexuals busted. It also talks about if asexuals have sex, and why. Located here.
Other links include:Do asexuals masterbate?
the truth about asexual masterbation?
My bookmarks about asexuality is here. Some of them aren't about asexuality specifically, and some of them are about people that think they're asexual but aren't. I warn you, because people get weirded out by different things. I would highly recommend the one called "Teambreaking", because it talks about the issues that asexuals face in coming out.
I am thinking about writing other fanfics that deal with human sexuality, gender, and gender roles. I write fanfiction to help explain things, and make them more tangible to myself. I am not a medical doctor, nor have I studied any of this professionally. I urge you to not take any of what I say as a fact, rather use it as a reference point to ask more questions. I appreciate the positive feedback that this fic has received more than you’ll ever know. Thank you very much!:)