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A = Affection (How affectionate are they? How do they show affection?)
Jax doesn’t do affection. Showing affection means being vulnerable. The most he’ll do is give you the occasional pat on the head to playfully annoy you, or throw an arm around your shoulders when you’re not expecting it just to see your reaction.
B = Best friend (What would they be like as a best friend? How would the friendship start?)
He’d be less guarded if you were his best friend. Still pretty performative, but he’d allow a few walls to come down. He’d also listen to you more. If he took a joke too far? He wouldn’t exactly apologize, but he’d do his best not to do it again. The friendship would start if Jax reached out and you reciprocated. If you tried to reach out to him first? Even if he liked you, he probably wouldn’t go along with it because he wasn’t the one to start the relationship. And Jax likes being in control of things. Especially something like that.
C = Cuddles (Do they like to cuddle? How would they cuddle?)
He secretly likes to cuddle, but he rarely does it. If you try anything like that with him? You’re getting mocked. If he were to cuddle, it would probably be a half-spoon. You rest your head on his chest while his arm is wrapped around you. He likes this because even though he’s doing something intimate, he still gets to control how you’re positioned. His other arm would be crossed behind his head, still trying to act nonchalant despite everything.
D = Domestic (Do they want to settle down? How are they at cooking and cleaning?)
He knows how to order food and move stuff around. Does that count as cooking and cleaning? He’s the definition of a new adult. He doesn’t have everything figured out, but if he finds the right person, he’ll stick with them, y’know? He’d be afraid of completely settling down, though. He both loves and loathes true connection.
E = Ending (If they had to break up with their partner, how would they do it?)
Quick. Like ripping off a band-aid. Usually without a whole lot of emotion. This can come across as uncaring or impassive, even if that’s not the case. It’s easier for him to do it that way because if you didn’t want to break up, now you would because of how he’s treating you. No loose ends.
F = Fiance(e) (How do they feel about commitment? How quick would they want to get married?)
He has major commitment issues. Marriage, or just relationships in general scare the shit out of him. Like, he’ll live with you, sleep with you, hang out with you, and still call you his roommate instead of his s/o. Even if he literally loved you. This can be really frustrating for you and can push you to the point where you’d want to leave. Only then would he consider being with you officially.
G = Gentle (How gentle are they, both physically and emotionally?)
Physically, he’s gentler than he lets on. He’ll still play-fight with you and everything, but he knows your boundaries and does his best not to cross them.
Emotionally, he starts to let the gentleness slide. He’ll pick on you, make jokes that usually go too far, and deflect and tell you you’re being too sensitive if you try to tell him that it’s bothering you. If he can tell you’re genuinely upset, he’ll make sure to stay nearby in case you need him, but he won’t outright start comforting you unless you ask for it.
H = Hugs (Do they like hugs? How often do they do it? What are their hugs like?)
Affection? Gross. Again, he’ll throw his arm around you at times but usually nothing more than that. But if he let himself show emotion, then he’d probably hug you way more often. Especially sneaking up and hugging you from behind.
I = I love you (How fast do they say the L-word?)
If he was trying to manipulate you? Very quickly. If he was being legitimate? Forever. Watching a snail and a turtle race would be faster than it takes this man to say the L-word. Even if he did have feelings for you, he still wouldn’t allow himself to say it. It would take something monumental, like you breaking up with him, for him to admit that he loves you.
J = Jealousy (How jealous do they get? What do they do when they’re jealous?)
He gets jealous easily, but hates that he does. Instead of admitting it or dealing with it, he becomes sarcastic, dismissive and obnoxious. He’ll either pretend not to care, and even go as far as to encourage you to hang out with whoever he’s jealous of, just to prove to himself that it doesn’t bother him. He’d also make offhand negative comments about the person he’s jealous of. But he’d never admit to you how he’s truly feeling.
K = Kisses (What are their kisses like? Where do they like to kiss you? Where do they like to be kissed?)
Kisses are pretty rare, but when he does, he loves to kiss you wherever you’re most sensitive. Full-on lips-to-lips, thighs, or his personal favorite, your neck. He melts when you kiss behind his shoulders or on his collarbone. There’s just something so intimate and vulnerable about getting kissed there that he equally loves it and hates that he loves it.
L = Little ones (How are they around children?)
He’d be great around kids. Teach them valuable lessons, like pranking, how bullying is a hoax, and how everyone’s too sensitive. Okay, in all seriousness, Jax would be pretty fun around kids. That doesn’t mean he’d be the best example for them, but he’d still have fun with them. Maybe pick on one that he thought was acting like a brat, but other than that he’d get a kick out of spending time with children. This doesn’t mean he’d want kids of his own. But it also doesn’t mean he wouldn’t want kids.
M = Morning (How are mornings spent with them?)
He’s definitely not a morning person. Getting up means putting on a new set of emotional armor that will slowly be poked and prodded at until the end of the day. But since this is when he’s the least defenseless, jokes are turned up to the max. He’ll also be half-awake, so his ability to filter how sarcastic and irritating he is around you gets pushed to the side. Waking up with him and hearing his morning voice is hot as fuck, but he’s also annoying as fuck.
N = Night (How are nights spent with them?)
Nights are when his defenses drop the most. He’s less performative and more willing to just relax and be with you. This is when he’s most likely to open up and allow himself to be vulnerable. Because of this, nights are dangerous for Jax emotionally. So a lot of the time, if you’re his s/o, he’ll initiate sex to distract you, and himself, from his armor slipping. If you’re his best friend, he’ll tell you he’s exhausted and convince you to leave.
O = Open (When would they start revealing things about themselves? Do they say everything all at once or wait a while to reveal things slowly?)
He’d definitely wait a long time to tell you his more personal likes and dislikes. But early on in the relationship he’ll reveal casual things about himself. (“Ugh, I hate that.” “That’s the best part!” “That person looks like they need me to ruin their day.”) More important things he’ll make sure to reveal slowly.
P = Patience (How easily angered are they?)
He’s patient when he wants to be. If he’s pranking someone, he’ll happily sit and wait for it to happen so he can watch them be humiliated. But if someone starts asking about more personal topics before he’s ready to talk about them, he gets irritated and angry pretty easily. However, he’ll rarely retaliate by yelling and letting them know he’s pissed off outright. It’ll most likely come out in snide comments, or passive aggressive humor.
Q = Quizzes (How much would they remember about you? Do they remember every little detail you mention in passing, or do they kind of forget everything?)
He would remember too much. But act like he remembers nothing. Then if something goes wrong and he stops seeing you, he’ll kick himself for the amount of shit he remembers. It makes letting go and forgetting harder.
R = Remember (What is their favorite moment in your relationship?)
Something simple. Like the first time he felt comfortable enough to let you cuddle him. Or when he told you something personal about himself, and you recognized how hard that was for him to admit. A moment where he felt safe enough to be vulnerable, and you honored and respected how hard that was for him to do.
S = Security (How protective are they? How would they protect you? How would they like to be protected?)
He’s subtly protective. Like if you’re walking side-by-side, he’s walking on the outside so you’re safer. But if you picked up on that and confronted him about it, he’d make a point of stopping the behavior to prove that he doesn’t care. He’d also stand up for you if someone started picking on you. Nobody-gets-to-bully-them-but-me mentality.
He likes it when you stand up for him as well. Even if he was the one in the wrong, and definitely deserves to be yelled at. You jumping in and defending him makes him feel appreciated and means a lot to him. He’d never admit it, though. In fact, afterwards he’d probably grumble some offhand comment like, “I don’t need your help, y’know”.
T = Try (How much effort would they put into dates, anniversaries, gifts, everyday tasks?)
I feel like he would procrastinate to the point where he doesn’t have time to do anything special. So he’d quickly throw something together and call it his best work, even if you knew it wasn’t. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t care, it just means planning things freak him out a little bit. Again, commitment issues shining through. (“Jax, it’s our anniversary.” “Oh, it is? Huh.”)
U = Ugly (What would be some bad habits of theirs?)
Well, there are the obvious ones. Avoidance, deflection, lying to everyone and himself, commitment issues, etc…
But then there’s the physical bad habits. Like not changing his toothbrush for months because he can’t be bothered to, and lets be real. He hardly uses it. Or not making his bed because what’s the point? It’s just going to get wrecked again. These habits read as underlying depression, but Jax insists it’s just him not caring.
V = Vanity (How concerned are they with their looks?)
He’d pretend not to be concerned with looks in the slightest. But in reality, he is. Controlling how he looks means controlling how others see and perceive him.
W = Whole (Would they feel incomplete without you?)
No. Despite all his problems, Jax is just fine being on his own. He’d be extremely hurt if you left, but he’d be okay. Wouldn’t go chasing after you or anything.
X = Xtra (A random headcanon for them.)
I feel like this is universally agreed upon in this fandom, but Jax loves to sing. He’s not perfect at it, but he still enjoys doing it. His favorite songs to sing are usually from musicals, a guilty pleasure of his. (I can totally see him belting “Dancing Through Life” from Wicked off-key.)
Y = Yuck (What are some things they wouldn’t like, either in general or in a partner?)
Well obviously he has trypophobia. So anything affiliated with that. Something else that annoys the shit out of him is when people try to pry into his life before he’s ready to share anything.
In a partner? He’d want someone who has a unique aesthetic and personality, so he’d despise unoriginality. He’d go crazy being with someone basic. You’d think he would like someone like that because it’s a clean slate to mold someone into who he wants them to be. But if he was genuinely looking for a s/o, he’d need someone who knows who they are.
Z = Zzz (What is a sleep habits of theirs?)
He uses a noise machine to help him sleep. He doesn’t like silence because then all the unwanted feelings and memories arise. Having something in the background helps distract himself from his true emotions.