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r/AmItheAsshole • 2d ago
theycallme007
AITA For Selling Out My Ex-Situationship (whom I still have a crush on)?
Asshole
Honestly I don't really understand how this works but I'll try. I'm not really a social media or online kind of person but I really need to ask someone's insight about this (who doesn't know me personally).
So me (M18) and my then Ex-Situationship (M18) met when we were 7. He came to stay with my family because some political reasons (that I don't think could be disclosed here), my dad is a very important person btw and so does his. He's being 'sent' to my family with his sister, but yeah we were kids and I lowkey (highkey) hated his people so I kinda punched him when we first met. Before you guys get all worked up, mind you we were children and the country that he came from was racist as fuck and he's one of those white nobles so I kinda did what I have to do. And obviously he was kinda mad but we eventually became friends because his sister just keep trying to keep the peace and being a devoted brother he is he follows, she's such an angel (bless her). All was fun and games until that bum country of his decided to nuke us and basically colonizes MY country. Told you those white people couldn't be trusted.
Even so he's different, my then Ex-Situationship vowed that he'd obliterate his own country/kingdom. He told me that we can do anything together, truly a core memory. That doesn't change the fact that my country in an absolute ruin though, so like any classic childhood friends stuff we were separated. Well because I have to do stuff, and he have to go into hiding to protect his sister. I was so sad and he was too but it had to be done.
Okay fast forward years later, I became an honorary citizen of the very same country that colonizes my country (I decided to join the military btw). I KNOW— I KNOW— that a LOT of people would come at me for that, but you guys have to see the vision ok? I swore I could change the system from the inside. Like I think I've heard those sayings that says "If you want to beat them join them" or something. (Edit: Apparently the saying did not go like that).
So yeah I thought I was doing pretty good. That was until one day I have to attack 'terrorists' which is my people who are trying to steal some good shit that will make them nobles go mad. And turns out the guy I'm about to shoot— yeah you probably guessed but it is my then Ex-Situationship. I swear it was unreal, he turned his face to me and I swear on my mama I could see sparkles and shit, and mind you that shit was on slow mo. Beautiful is an understatement he was MAJESTIC. The guy got like this long-ish black hair and very slender figure. He built like one of those Rick Owens models I swear. Ngl, at that point I was ready to risk it. Who cares if he steals some shit? People shoplifts all the time. But then we talk, he told me that he's not a terrorist and he just accidentally stumbles upon the heist and bla bla bla turns out the stolen 'bomb' was actually a girl, yeah basically shits just be getting even more weirder.
Then just as convenient as ever my boss and the troops just walked in at the right time. My boss told me to kill him, which of course I object (duh), I told him that he's a civilian but he doesn't care and still wants him dead anyway. Maybe he's homophobic but I'm not sure (can't cross check it cz he's dead yk). I keep saying no which made them shoot us anyway but me being such a good childhood best friend who wants to look good in front of his crush, took the bullet. Yeah I think I kinda owe him a life or something, or maybe at that moment I was just downbad and suicidal.
However as you guys know I didn't die and then I asked to the rescue team if they had seen someone like him, but no they haven't found any casualties that looks like him (thankfully). After that I somehow got a privilege to pilot a really dope ass knightmare, I genuinely thought I would never be able to considering how racist they are.
Uhh I don't really want to talk about myself, but in short I apparently was really good at using the knightmare and there's suddenly this super mastermind of a terrorist. And somehow a prince was murdered, and I was framed thanks to racism. Then the said terrorist rescued me asking me to join them, but like I don't want to? I still think I could change the system from the inside okay.
After my name got cleared, thanks to that terrorist who claimed the crime framed upon me as his. I get to keep my job and I also met a princess (remember this detail for later), yeah we kinda hit it off. The princess was a sweetheart, she even send me to got an education. And then as I arrived at my new class I saw my then Ex-Situationship.
I think fate really wanted us to be together, but considering how people were being racist towards me at that time I feel like it's best if we maintain the distance. I don't want him to get backlash for knowing me. As I saw him leaving the classroom he touched his collar, it's like a signal that we used to eachother to have a secret meeting. So of course I went, I leave the class shortly after. Meeting him at the rooftop.
We talked, he told me that he decided to go undercover not letting anyone know that he's a prince so he went by a different family name. We are talking and stuff but honestly I couldn't stop staring, because how did that (slightly) insufferable boy with a bob cut turns into that? I thought I'd never see him again, but I'm glad I could because he's way too fine. And I think he kinda caught on my staring because he'd blush occasionally. Imagine how hard I tried to keep my cool.
Sorry, enough with embarrassing myself let's continue. I told him how we probably should keep our distance so he wouldn't be affected, and he was upset. But I insists anyway. After that we go into separate ways.
But then somehow a catastrophe happened, there's an announcement to ran after a cat which apparently stole something. And whoever could bring the cat to the student council room could have a kiss from any student council members. Upon remembering that my then Ex-Situationship is a student council member best believe I sprinted as if I'm running a marathon. That is until I met him, when I saw him of course I had to act as if I don't know anything that have been going on. Turns out he already located the cat and currently he's on it's tail. So yeah I followed the trail but I'm faster than him so I got there first (we were on the roof). And just as I was about to reach the cat he slipped, well of course I changed my objective to save him (if there's no him then who to kiss?). In short I saved him, we got the cat. And people praised me, I also joined the student council. Then his sister came and gave us a kiss on the cheek, a literal angel.
Here's my favorite part. As I came to my dorm room, he followed because he still wants to talk about the good ol' days. I joked asking him if he's going to give me a kiss since I caught him and the cat. And he was sooooo flustered, he said that I'm being ridiculous. Then he muttered.... so low that I wouldn't heard if I was not down bad enough. He said "maybe". I ran even more faster than how I was when I was about to die to my room, and locked it swiftly. We kissed, and he was stunned. But I think he likes it, and suddenly my hands are just snaking everywhere and his hands were just everywhere. We're basically making out. A full on making out on my first day of school, truly a peak transfer student experience.
And that's how we started our situationship, we are not exactly dating and we are not exactly just friends. Because I believe friends doesn't make out occasionally.
I think I'll just speed the story up a bit, so you could determine whether I'm in the wrong or not faster.
Remember the princess? Yeah like I said we hit it off, she was so nice to me never once doubted me despite what everyone says. So I kinda thought I had a crush on her, she was just too kind and pretty. And she made me to be her personal knight btw, which is a huge step for me as a minority. Also because she did that the more I believe I could change the system from inside. (Edit: What is micro cheating?).
Being the kind hearted person she is, she wanted to grant us a land where people of my nation could be free. Everyone was really hyped except that terrorist guy I suppose, well she kinda took his goal. Even so the princess wanted him to join her, to collaborate with her in achieving it. Somehow he showed up on the day and talked to her, but then she started being batshit crazy and killing everyone off so that terrorist killed her. I knew her so well, it was very uncharacteristic of her. And my suspicion was correct, turns out that terrorist guy got a power that could brainwashes people, and she was a victim of his malicious act. Naturally I went after him to avenge my princess. As I finally stood on one on one with that very same terrorist who saved my life, I pointed my gun and shot at him. His mask cracked, revealing that the man behind the mask is infact my then Ex-Situationship. I was flabbergasted, and was in denial for quite bit.
Did I have suspicions? Yes. I mean it was surely weird that as a normal civilian he's just be disappearring whenever there's something big happened.
But do I wanted it to be him? No. I desperately wishes it wasn't him who stood in front of me.
Just because it was him that means I'm not enraged anymore though. So I started to call him a bunch of names and said some nasty things, including telling him that his very existence was a mistake. He looked so hurt, and we were both fueled with rage so we fired gun at eachother. But it was him that went down.
Still enraged, I did what I had to. I brought him to the king which is his father (yes, this is the part where I sold him out and yes he's a prince surprise surprise). The very same father who abandoned him (I admit, looking back to it I wasn't really proud of this). Not really a surprise at this point, that his father also have a power. So he casts his power onto him to rewrite his memory (in the end he gained it back though). He had rewritten his memories to an alternate version of him who had never into these rebel stuff and erased his memory of having that terrorist persona. He erases every memories that could possibly trigger it, which includes him forgetting me (ouch). To be fair this is such a better outcome, I thought he would kill him. I guess he still have a soft spot for his son.
During the period where we became enemies again (yes he came back to his terrorist persona (which is kinda hot)) I realized that my feelings for him ran deeper than I had originally thought. So I caved in and decided to work by his side, he really needed a lot of convincing though. His trust of me were very little after that time. But in the same time he also understood my circumstances and pardoned me (I think). In the end he fulfilled his promise that he made when he was a child, and we ruled the country. So yeah overall we made the world a better place by not being in a situationship anymore (we're dating, the moment we started dating was the moment I turned into a god believer once again). So maybe moral of the story is that to NOT be in a situationship.
That's what had happened in the past, and now it have been four or three years... I think? After the event, and yet he's still very bitter about it. Sometimes after a small argument he still says something along the lines of "Yeah that's exactly what someone who sold me out would've said".
Last night I fucked up. When he said that, I argued back. I told him that I was under circumstances, and I really did what I had to. He's even more pissed, he told me that was an 'asshole move'. He's really mad at me and kicked me out of our room. But I still think what I did was justified. So AITA?
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Charming_Blonde_Guy
NTA. You did what you have to. Long live the country.
RedAceFighter
'I joined the military btw' was the moment that I knew YTA. Betraying him shouldn't be a surprise considering how you betrayed your own country. If I were him I wouldn't let you hit, it's surprising that you both are in a relationship.
|theycallme007
You're mad he let me hit lol.
Katana_Swinger
No loyalty for your people, no loyalty to your boyfriend. YTA.
|theycallme007
He wasn't my boyfriend yet.
Everyones_So_Loud
The situationship of misery and doom.
WeatherGirl
Yikes! It happened years ago and your boyfriend is still bitter about it? He have everything right to be tbh! He's forgiving enough to date you. YTA, sorry!
NotJustanAide
You were really holding onto your belief, which is a great thing. You're a man of a strong foundation, you shouldn't hesitate when it came to protecting your country. However you're betraying your country to be with him in the end so I'd go with ESH. Because what is the point of you betraying him in the first place when you literally changed your mind later on?
|Charming_Blonde_Guy
I would never do that to you btw
|NotJustanAide
I know ;)
|theycallme007 - OP
I miss my bf :(
Surprisingly_an_Earl
This is why I don't do relationship!
ChineseCoupPlanner
Right, so your country got COLONIZED yet you joined the MILITARY and then you got FRAMED due to RACISM. But a supposed 'terrorist' saved you and asked you to join him to free your country, and you said no??? Seeing that you said no, so I suggest he didn't use his power on you didn't he?
|theycallme007 - OP
Yeah he didn't.
|ChineseCoupPlanner
So he asked NICELY, and you said no. And you sold his ass, what a fucking jerk. You're a bum, YTA.
Threestan
Guys, the dude literally agreed to date him. I fear he's right where he wants to be..
|Dear_Diaree
I think he still needs to be saved #freehim. YTA, btw.
GingerSwimmer
I'm sorry but I have to go with YTA, especially because you are having feelings for someone else while being in a relationship with him it's unforgivable!
|RedAceFighter
EXACTLY!
|theycallme007 - OP
We weren't dating at that time.
|GingerSwimmer
I still think YTA though sorry.. However I hope your boyfriend would be less mad now, even though I hope he'd find someone better
|theycallme007 - OP
Thanks a bunch :).
Motorbikes_18287
dude selling him out to his father which he HATES is a new low. No one could out asshole this guy lol, YTA.
iCookStuffs
If you have to go to a sub reddit asking judgment of something you had done years ago, maybe you already know the answer that deep down YTA. And I suggest seeing couples therapy, I think your boyfriend is truly hurt!
TheWitchofHut
Happened to my buddy once.
|BritsHater
I'm the buddy. YTA.