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Dear Wilson,

The first bright thing I want to set down here is simple. I am still alive.

I mean I woke up this morning and the air was cold enough to bite the inside of my nose, and I thought, very briefly, about how strange it is that the body continues without consulting the mind. I made breakfast. I forgot about it. I found it later, cold, and ate it anyway because it felt wrong to waste something I had made with intention. 

The body is loyal in that way. Even when you are unkind to it, it continues its small miracles. It breathes. It stitches. It grows new layers of skin. It pumps blood like a steady drum. It is the only companion I have never been able to leave behind.

I do not know if you have ever paid attention to the sound a page makes when it’s turned slowly, almost reluctantly. There is a hush to it, like a whisper being dragged out of a throat. That is the sound your letter made in my head. It turned something in me. Not toward you, exactly. Not away from you either. 

It turned me toward myself, and that is the direction I have avoided for a long time because it is not a safe place to stand. There are, if I am honest, several selves inside me, and they do not always speak kindly to one another.

One of them believes in control. This self likes lists, edges, neat explanations. This self wants every feeling to come with a label and a solution. 

If you are sad, you should do X. If you are afraid, you should do Y. If you are confused, you should gather more information until confusion collapses into certainty. 

This self has done a great deal of work keeping me functional, keeping me moving forward, keeping me from lying down on the floor and letting the world walk over me.

Another self believes in disappearance. This self is old. It learned early that attention can be dangerous, that being seen means being interpreted, and being interpreted means being owned. 

This self believes the safest thing is to shrink, to become unremarkable, to slide into the spaces between other people’s needs. This self is the reason I sometimes feel my voice tighten when I try to say something true. 

It is the reason I sometimes laugh when I should not, or smile too quickly, or change the subject with a magician’s precision.

Disappearance is a skill. You get good at it if you practice long enough.

And then there is the self I almost never let speak, the one I do not know what to do with: the self that is furious.

I do not mean angry in a tidy, justified way. I mean furious the way the ocean is furious when it decides a shoreline is no longer a boundary. I mean furious the way fire is furious when it does not care what it consumes. 

This fury is not always directed at anything specific. Often it is simply a reaction to the fact of being alive in a world that demands so much from you and then pretends it did not.

This furious self scares me because it does not negotiate. It does not care about being understood. It does not care about being liked. It cares about truth the way a blade cares about sharpness. When it rises, I feel it under my ribs like a second heart.

You might be surprised to hear that. You might imagine me as calm, composed, someone who can absorb a lot without breaking. People often mistake quietness for softness. Quietness can be a form of holding a storm in your mouth.

Your letter did not create that storm. But it did something. It made me realize I have been acting as if I am required to be one consistent person for everyone, all the time. As if I am not allowed to contradict myself, as if my history must be a straight line instead of a scribble.

There is something I want to tell you, and I am hesitating, not because it is risky, but because it is tender and I do not want to handle it roughly. When I read your letter, I felt a kind of gratitude that surprised me. Not gratitude for being loved. That sounds arrogant. 

Love is not a prize I assume I deserve. It is a gift, and gifts are not guaranteed. I felt gratitude for being allowed into the part of you that you usually keep locked away.

I felt gratitude that you trusted paper enough to tell the truth, even if your mouth might refuse later. I felt gratitude that you created a place for honesty to exist without being interrupted.

That is what your letter was, to me—a place.

I am writing this letter as my own place, not as a response, not as a rebuttal, not as a set of assurances. Just a place where the truth can sit without having to defend itself.

I am writing this because I need somewhere to put the thoughts that have been knocking around inside me since I finished reading your words. I need them to become sentences so I can see where they end. When thoughts stay unspoken, they grow like mold. They spread in the dark. They start to taste like truth even when they are only fear.

Here is something I can say with certainty: I am afraid of being cared for badly.

There is a kind of care that is suffocating. It comes with strings. It comes with expectations. It comes with a quiet tally kept in someone’s head—I did this for you, now you owe me. It is not care. It is ownership with subdued hands.

I have been owned, in small ways, by people who called it love. I have been told what I should be grateful for. I have been told what I should want. I have been told that my reluctance was evidence of my brokenness, and their insistence was evidence of their devotion.

Devotion can be a beautiful thing. It can also be a cage.

I do not think you would cage me. But fear is not always rational or logical. Fear does not care about your character. 

Fear cares about patterns. Fear cares about what has happened before. Fear is a body remembering pain and trying to prevent its recurrence. Logic has nothing to do with it.

So I am watching, still. Watching to see if your care is the kind that makes room or the kind that takes up all the air. 

So far, you have made room.

You have also, if I am honest, taken up space in me. Not in a way that feels invasive. In a way that feels inevitable. Like you were always going to end up here, in the corridor of my thoughts, leaning against the wall as if you belong.

When I think of you, my chest feels less tight. When I am away from you, I find myself noticing things I would normally ignore, as if my senses are trying to collect material to bring back to you.

A strange cloud. A ridiculous phrase someone said. The hamster in the store window. The way light fell across a counter. I think, “Wilson would laugh at that,” or “Wilson would like that,” and then I catch myself and feel confused, because why are you in my head during a cloud?

But you are. You are there.

And you are there in a way that does not feel like a conquest. It feels like a presence. Like you have been quietly moving furniture in a room I did not realize I had, making it livable.

I do not want to romanticize you. 

Romanticizing people is another way of not seeing them. It turns them into a symbol instead of a person, and symbols cannot disappoint you because you never let them be real in the first place.

You are real. You are frustrating. You are sometimes obtuse. You are sometimes too earnest. You are sometimes too quiet. You are most times too loud. You are sometimes exactly what I need and sometimes exactly the challenge to knock me down.

It is… good. The reality of you. The fact that you are not a fantasy. 

I'm sitting at the desk with the lamp on, because I have never liked overhead lights. Overhead lights feel like interrogation. The lamp made a small circle of brightness, and everything outside it looked like the edge of a stage. I could have been anyone, in any place, doing anything, as long as it happened inside that light.

So let this be my letter, and let it stand beside yours without leaning against it.

I am writing this instead of walking into the kitchen and looking at you with what you called my “big eyes,” which does not make sense because they are just my eyes, Wilson. They have been attached to my face the entire time. If they look big at you, maybe it’s because you keep making a habit out of being something worth looking at.

Perhaps I have made a habit of looking.

After I read your letter, I went to the bathroom and looked at myself in the mirror.

I do not know why I did that. I am not the type to seek my reflection when I am rattled. Mirrors make me feel like I am being evaluated. Like I am looking at an actor who has forgotten their lines. But I stood there anyway, hands on the sink, and I looked at my face.

I looked tired. Not in the dramatic way people look tired in movies, with smudged mascara and a single tear. I looked tired in the ordinary way—faint shadows under my eyes, a little tension at the corners of my mouth.

I thought, briefly, about the fact that this face has been watched by you and by Vanta while it changes. While it relaxes. While it smiles without being asked.

There are very few people who have seen me this often. Very few people who have witnessed my mornings. The way I squint at the light. The way I stand at the counter and wait for the coffee to bloom. The way my shoulders slope when I am truly at ease.

In the mirror, I raised my eyebrows at myself as if to say, Well? What now?

And I realized I did not have an answer. So I looked for it in our bedroom. 

I sat on the edge of the bed and stared at the laundry basket, which was full in a way that felt personally offensive. I folded a shirt that was already folded. I smoothed the sheets like I could iron out my own thoughts.

Then, because my brain is cruel, it offered me a memory.

The night after our first mission together. Or, the moment I first realized you and Vanta were going to matter. It was not a grand moment. There was no dramatic confession, no rain outside, no orchestral swell. 

It was, in fact, the ungodly hours in between twilight and sunrise on a Saturday afternoon.

It was raining, but not in a cinematic way. Not in the way you like. It was raining in the way rain happens to argue with the clouds—persistent, gray, determined to make every sidewalk a little slick and every sleeve a little damp.

Vanta had dragged both of us to some hole-in-the-wall place that sold noodles and called itself authentic with the kind of confidence only a small business can have. 

You complained the whole way there. Not truly. Not with anger. With that dry, irritated voice that is more affection than you like to admit. Vanta kept laughing, because Vanta treats your annoyance like applause.

We sat in a booth that was too small. Vanta’s knee kept bumping yours because he is incapable of staying contained. You kept shifting away like a cat being gently herded into a carrier. I watched the two of you with the kind of detached amusement I reserve for things I pretend do not affect me.

Halfway through the meal, Vanta said something ridiculous—something about how he could absolutely survive on an island as long as he had a frying pan and a playlist—and you rolled your eyes and said something about how there was no way back. 

Vanta grinned. I smiled, despite myself.

And then, without thinking, you reached across the table and wiped a fleck of sauce from the corner of Vanta’s mouth with your thumb. The gesture was so quick, so unceremonious, that if someone had blinked they would have missed it.

Vanta’s grin faltered for a second. Not in a wounded way. In a surprised way. Like he had been touched by something gentler than he expected. You realized what you had done and your hand jerked back as if you had been burned. 

You looked away. You muttered something about him being messy. But I saw it. 

I saw the softness you tried to hide. I saw the fact that your body knew how to care before your mind could stop it.

Something in me shifted, like a lock turning.

I recognized that gesture. Not the specifics of it, but the feeling behind it, the instinct to make someone more comfortable without asking permission. The quiet act of tending. The kind of care you give when you are not keeping score. It startled me. 

It made me want to move closer and farther away at the same time, which is, I suspect, a feeling you are intimately familiar with.

That was when I knew you were not going to remain a passing weather system in my life. You were going to settle. You were going to seep into the walls. You were going to be here. You were going to stay.

I keep thinking about the way you exist in the house—how you move through it. You move as if you are aware that space is shared. You do not stomp. You do not take over. You make yourself fit without shrinking. That is a delicate thing. Most people either dominate or disappear. You do neither.

I wonder if you know how comforting that is to someone like me, who has spent so long making themselves fit by becoming smaller.

I have spent years mastering the art of not being an inconvenience. It is a bleak art. It makes you invisible. It makes you easy to overlook. It makes you safe, in the way shadows are safe.

But safety in shadows is not the same as safety in daylight. Safety in daylight would mean I could be loud. I could take up space. I could have needs and not apologize for them. 

I could be angry and not fear abandonment. I could cry and not fear mockery. I could be uncertain and not fear that uncertainty will be used against me.

Do you think that kind of safety exists?

I do not know. But I think maybe it could.

I think maybe you and I could do something like that. Not perfectly. Not without mistakes. But with intention. With care. With room.

It is frightening. It is also, strangely, peaceful.

You have given me a kind of peace I did not know I could feel while still being myself. That last part matters. I am still myself. Silly. Quiet. Complicated. Not easy. Not simple. Not always kind. But mine.

And you, somehow, seem to like me anyway.

That is the most disorienting thing of all.

There is a story people tell about patience, as if patience is always gentle. As if patience is always kind. As if patience is simply sitting still and smiling and being good.

That is not what patience has been for me.

Patience has been a tension I hold in my jaw. It has been the choice not to reach for you when I want to. It has been the choice to let you come toward me at your own pace even when every instinct in my body wants to grab you by the collar and say, “Please. Stop making this harder than it has to be.”

I do not do that, because I know it would not work. You cannot be yanked into softness. You would only harden.

Vanta does not understand this, sometimes. He thinks he can pull you into joy through sheer force of personality. And sometimes he can. Sometimes you let him. Sometimes you are too tired to fight him and you end up laughing, and the laugh surprises you like a bird landing on your shoulder.

But there are other times when Vanta’s bright approach hits your fear and bounces off, and you get louder and he gets sharper and the whole apartment becomes a stage for a battle neither of you actually wants.

In those moments, I become the quiet center. Not because I am superior. Because I am practiced. I have spent years being the person who keeps the room from tipping. I have spent years being the one who notices when someone is about to break.

It is an exhausting kind of attention. It is a form of love I have never been sure how to name.

In your letter, you called me a lighthouse. It is a flattering image, but it is not entirely accurate. Lighthouses are solitary. They are built to stand alone. They shine outward, not inward. They exist to guide other people, not to be held.

I do not want to be a lighthouse. Not anymore.

I want to be, perhaps, a porch light. Something smaller. Something that can be turned off when it needs rest. Something that does not have to stand against storms alone.

Do you know what else I want?

I want the version of you that exists when you forget to guard yourself.

The version of you that leans against the counter while you cook, humming under your breath because you do not realize you are doing it. The version of you that talks to Vanta about nonsense, about what if this and what if that and who would be.

The version of you that sits on the edge of the bed at night and listens to the city and lets your shoulders drop. The version of you that says my name when you are half-asleep and it is not an accident. 

The version of you that reaches, even when you think you are not reaching. Your mouth twisting around sincerity like it’s a foreign language and you’re stubborn enough to become fluent anyway.

I want to make coffee and listen to you and Vanta argue about something stupid, like whether the mug should be rinsed before going into the sink. I want to smile and then kiss you both on the cheek casually, like it is the most natural thing in the world. 

I want to cook with you. I want to sit with you in silence. I want to stop when I walk past you and kiss you into oblivion just because. I want to buy something ridiculous at a market and bring it home to show you, like “Look at this,” and I want you to laugh and shake your head and be pleased I thought of you.

I want to be allowed to be human in this apartment, not just steady. 

I want us. You, me, Vanta.

I want all of it.

That is one of the reasons your letter affected me the way it did. It was not only about being wanted. It was about being seen. Not in the way people say that casually, as if “seen” is a simple act of noticing. But in the deeper way, the dangerous way, where someone’s attention lands on you and does not slide off.

You have been seeing me for years. You see the moments I hesitate. You see the moments I swallow my own thoughts because I do not want to complicate the air. You see the careful way I step around other people’s edges.

And the worst part is, you do not use that sight as a weapon. You do not catalog my vulnerabilities for later. You do not press on them when you are angry.

You simply see, and then you behave as if the sight makes you gentler.

It is not fair. It makes it hard to keep my own walls intact. See, you are good at architecture, too.

You are also not like most people I have known. That is not a compliment. Nor is it an insult. It's just an observation. Most people I have known make sense immediately. They are a closed book with the title written in big letters. 

You are a book that keeps changing its font. You are the kind of person who can be compliant and then, in the next moment, be so resistant it feels like hitting stone.

Lately, I have been thinking about stubbornness. About how it is often mistaken for strength. About how it is sometimes just fear dressed up in a jacket that looks respectable. You have worn that jacket. You have buttoned it right up to your throat so no one could see the trembling underneath. 

“I am fine,” I have heard you say, when you were not. 

“I don't care,” I have heard you say when you cared so much it made you dizzy.

If I am honest—and I am trying to be honest in this letter because lies would make it heavier than it already is—I can tell you are tired. Not the sleepy kind. The kind that comes from holding yourself in place for years. 

The kind that makes your muscles ache even when you are sitting still. The kind that makes you want to set down the entire person you have been carrying and ask, softly, “Do I really need all of this?”

You have this belief, Wilson, that needing is shameful.

You act like hunger is a moral failure. Like wanting comfort makes you weak. Like asking for reassurance is manipulative. Where did you learn that? Do not answer. I know the answer, or I can guess. People do not grow those beliefs out of sunshine. 

Wilson. Listen.

If I did not need you, why would I have fought so hard to understand you?

Need is not always about survival. Sometimes need is the insistence of the heart. 

I need to know you. I need to be near you. I need to be part of your life the way the moon needs the ocean because they have been moving each other for so long that the pull has become a language.

Here is something I need you to understand:

I am not disgusted by your need. 

I am not irritated by it. 

I do not look at your softness and think, “How inconvenient.” 

I look at it and think, “Here you are. Here is my person.”

You seem like someone who has known loss too, in your own way. 

It shows in the way you sometimes pause before speaking, as if you are measuring how much truth is safe to release. It shows in the way you can be so gentle and then suddenly distant, as if you have remembered something that makes closeness feel dangerous.

You think love is a trick. You think love is a misunderstanding that will eventually be corrected. You think if someone sees you clearly, they will stop.

But Wilson, I have seen you clearly in more ways than you understand.

I have seen you when you are generous. I have seen you when you are petty. I have seen you when you are tired and your kindness runs thin and you snap at the cabinet door because it won’t close right. I have seen you when you are so happy with that animal that is both axolotl and cat it makes my throat ache. 

I have seen you when you are scared and you pretend you are not by becoming efficient. I have seen you when you are sad and you pretend you are not by becoming funny. 

I have seen the parts you do not show everyone, the ways you hold yourself back. The way you try anyway. 

Trying is brave, Wilson. Everyone says bravery is standing in front of a monster with a sword. But most of the time bravery is standing in front of tenderness with empty hands. It is letting someone matter. It is choosing not to run. 

I do not know if I am brave. I know I am trying.

Do you remember the night we walked home late and the streetlights made your face look carved out of gold? You had been talking, of course, narrating your own existence, and Vanta had been listening, occasionally adding a comment that somehow made you brighter. 

I had been quieter, watching the two of you and laughing to myself. And at one point you reached back without looking and took my hand, just for a moment, crossing the street. It was practical. It was safety. 

It was also, I realized later, a kind of trust.

You had stirred something in me that I have been keeping still for as long as I can remember. I do not know if that was your intention. You probably did not intend anything. You are not that calculated. You just… are.

There is a spot on the paper where you pressed too hard and the ink pooled a little. I stared at it for a long time. I don’t know why. Maybe because it looked like you hesitated there. Maybe because it looked like evidence that your hand shook, and I needed proof that you felt anything while you were writing what you wrote.

You always do that thing where you act like your feelings are a mess you have to clean up before anyone sees. Like you’re a kid making a sandwich and you can’t let anyone catch you dropping crumbs. So you eat in the hallway, and then you wonder why you’re hungry again.

I want to say I understand. I want to say I have a drawer full of my own unsaid things, all folded so neatly they could pass for nothing at all. But I do not want to let you use that understanding as a ladder out of what you did.

Because, Wilson, you do not get to decide for both of us what we can carry.

If you want to measure risk, we are all taking it. You are not uniquely vulnerable. You are not the only one who can be hurt. You are not the only one with something to lose. 

And I am still here. Vanta is still here. You are not the only one with survival habits. 

We are made of them.

Sometimes I look like steadiness when I am actually just good at holding my breath. Sometimes I look calm because I have learned which feelings are safer to have in private. 

I have been called reasonable enough times that I started believing it was my job to be the person who does not make waves. But waves happen whether we approve of them or not. 

It turns out you can be kind and still be terrified. You are one of the most kindest people I know. And if you are going to be terrified, be terrified with your hand in mine.

I can't help but wonder what you will do with my words when you read them. 

Do you hold them gently? Do you rush? Do you read them twice? Do you get annoyed at me for making everything complicated? Do you smile? Do you frown? Do you put the paper down and stare at nothing for a moment, letting it sink in?

I am not asking you to tell me. I am not asking you to do anything. I am simply imagining you, because my mind does that now, apparently, as if it has nothing better to do. That is the trouble with you. You are easy to imagine. 

Surprisingly, the apartment did not fall apart after I read your letter.

Nothing exploded. The walls did not crack. 

The ceiling did not cave in. The light did not flicker dramatically. The ordinary objects stayed ordinary. The dish rack held dishes. The clock kept time. The couch remained a couch.

But something had shifted anyway. 

Have you ever thought about doors? Not just literal doors, but the psychological kind. The kind you build in your mind to separate what you can tolerate from what you cannot. I have a lot of doors. Some are locked. Some are merely closed. Some are open but guarded.

When you know someone for long enough, you start to think you know all their doors. You know which ones creak, which ones stick, which ones swing wide. You learn how to walk through their house without bumping into furniture. You learn where the light switches are. You learn which rooms are private and which are shared.

But people renovate internally all the time. Sometimes without realizing it. Sometimes in secret. Sometimes because they are forced to. I have been renovating.

And the letter you wrote arrived in the middle of that construction, when my floors were torn up and my walls were exposed and there were nails on the ground. 

It would have been easy to turn your letter into an intrusion. It would have been easy to feel invaded. It would have been easy to put up more doors. Instead, I am choosing something else. 

I am choosing to build a window.

A window is different. It does not allow anyone to walk in. It does not guarantee safety. But it allows light. It allows a view. It allows the possibility of seeing and being seen without surrendering the whole structure.

This letter is a window.

Through it, I want you to see that I am not a puzzle to be solved. I am not a problem to be fixed. I am not a story that exists to teach someone else a lesson. I am a person moving through time, carrying my particular set of injuries and desires, doing my best to make a life that feels like mine.

We can keep living like we have been living, except with a little more light in the corners. With a little less pretending. With a little more permission. We can let the tide come in and simply not fight it.

If you want.

But I will ask you something. Just one thing.

I will ask you to stop writing endings you have not earned.

If you want to leave, then leave with your whole self. Don’t leave and keep haunting the spaces between us like a ghost that still wants to be touched. If you want to stay, then stay like it matters. Stay like you are not doing me a favor. Stay like you are allowed to be wanted without turning it into debt.

And if you do not know yet what you want, that is all right too. Just say that. Say, “Zali, I don’t know.” It would be the first time you didn’t try to translate your fear into certainty.

I can handle “I don’t know,” Wilson.

What I cannot handle is you pretending “I don’t know” is the same as “no,” just because “no” is easier to live with. Because “no” is clean. “No” is simple. “No” is a door that shuts. And you love shut doors.

But I have lived with you long enough to know that you only shut doors so you can lean your forehead against them and listen for footsteps on the other side.

Do you remember the first time you told me, accidentally, something true? You didn’t even say it like a confession. You said it like an aside, like you were talking about someone else. 

You said you hated the way silence could sound like abandonment. 

You said it while you were rinsing a plate, not looking at me, and I stood there holding a dish towel like an idiot because my whole life rearranged itself in that second. It was the first time I realized the distance you keep isn’t because you don’t care. It’s because you care so much it scares you.

Your letter felt like that, except you dressed it up. You tucked it into neat sentences and called it protection. But underneath, it was the same thing: Please don’t leave me.

You didn’t write those words, but I saw them anyway. I always see you. Even with my eyes closed, I still see you. So here is the thing I didn’t say before, the thing I am saying now:

I will not leave you, Wilson.

I am here, and I want you, and you are allowed to want me back without making it mean something awful about you.

You can be soft. You can be scared. You can still be yours. But you have to meet me. 

You have to come to the door and put your hand on the knob. Not because I need you to prove something, but because I need to know you can choose us with your eyes open, not just your hands shaking in the margins of a letter.

Wilson.

Please stop thinking the only way to be loved is to be untouchable.

You are not untouchable. You are just you.

And that has been enough to undo me, in the best and worst ways, for a long time.

Before you open the door and step into my arms, I want to talk to you about thresholds.

There is a particular kind of quiet that happens right before a door opens. The moment when a hand turns the knob and the latch releases, and the air on either side of the door begins to mingle. That moment is brief. 

It is almost nothing. But it is a threshold: a line between two spaces that will not be separate for much longer.

Living with other people is a constant crossing of thresholds. The threshold between solitude and company. The threshold between your habits and someone else’s. The threshold between your private rituals and the moment someone witnesses them.

You cross thresholds all the time, and most of the time you do not notice. 

You do not notice when Vanta steals your hoodie. You do not notice when I refill the soap. You do not notice when the three of us fall asleep on the couch and wake up tangled and annoyed and inexplicably content.

But there are certain thresholds you have been circling like a cautious animal. Certain lines you refuse to cross unless you can do it with one foot still behind you, ready to retreat.

I have watched you do this for months. 

I have watched you hover at the edge of affection like it is a pool you are not sure is shallow enough to wade into. I have watched you test the temperature with sarcasm. I have watched you pretend you are only standing near us because it is convenient.

It would be easy to make fun of you for this. Vanta does, sometimes, and you pretend to hate it and secretly enjoy the fact that he notices. I do not make fun of you for it. Not because I am kinder than Vanta, but because I understand. 

I understand what it is like to stand at a door and not know whether opening it will let in light or let in a storm. The difference between you and me is that my fear makes me quiet. Your fear makes you loud.

You turn fear into friction. Into banter. Into complaint. Into the illusion of control. I turn fear into silence. Into observation. Into the slow accumulation of facts until I can convince myself I am safe.

Neither is particularly noble. Both are, in their own way, avoidance. So we will deal with our fear as we do most things, which is together. And that includes Vanta, obviously. Vanta, for all his bravado, can be scared too.

You know this already, but he can also be gentle. I have seen it in him. I have seen the way he watches you when you think no one is watching, the way his face changes into something almost reverent. 

He makes jokes because he knows you can handle jokes. He teases you because it is a language you understand. But underneath it, there is a seriousness in him that you pretend not to notice. He is not as careless as he looks. Not with you. Not with us.

Sometimes I think you and Vanta are more alike than either of you would admit. Both of you hide your heart in different costumes. 

Both of you fear being trapped, though you express it differently. Both of you have been hurt in ways that taught you to turn love into a game you can control.

The difference is that Vanta runs toward the fire and you run away from it. And I stand in the doorway, trying to learn how to be warm without burning.

We are, all three of us, learning. 

Living with you and Vanta has shown me, over and over, that being held can be a choice. That being held can be something you step into willingly, like warmth. That is what scares me most—the fact that I want to step in.

I have learned that when you are anxious, you clean. 

You wash dishes that are already clean. You wipe counters that are already wiped. You organize spices. You rearrange the pantry, muttering to yourself about doing our future selves a favor. Vanta teases you about it and you glare at him, and then you keep cleaning anyway, because the body does not always care what the mouth insists.

I have learned that when you are content, you get quieter. Not withdrawn. Not shut down. Just… present. There is a kind of peace in you that is almost shy. It does not like to be noticed. If someone points at it, it slips away.

I have not told you these things because I did not want to make you feel watched in a way that would make you run. I have held them in my mind like small, private pieces of affection.

And I will tell you one more thing, because I think it might be the only weapon I have that you can’t dodge: If you keep trying to spare me from you, you will lose me anyway.

Not because I will stop loving you overnight, but because love that is always postponed turns into grief. It turns into something I carry around like a bruise. I do not want to grieve you while you are still alive in the next room.

Alive is a word people misuse. They use it for adrenaline. They use it for danger. They use it for chaos. They say, “I feel alive,” when they are standing on the edge of something that might hurt them. 

But there is another kind of alive. The kind where your body is not on fire, but awake. The kind where you are not bracing, but present. 

The kind where you can taste your food and hear birds and notice the way light moves across the floor and not immediately think, “This will end, this will end, this will end.”

I have been thinking “this will end” my whole life. I have said it like a prayer. Not because I wanted things to end, but because predicting the end made it feel less like a disaster when it arrived.

I am tired of praying for endings. I do not know how to pray for continuance. That feels foolish. That feels like tempting fate. That feels like inviting loss by admitting you have something to lose.

But maybe that is the price. Maybe you do not get to have anything real without risking the grief of it ending.

That is a terrifying bargain. But perhaps it is the only one.

I do not know if you have thought about that. You might have. You might not.

So. 

So now, Wilson, it is later. 

I am going to put this letter where you will find it. And I’m going to do what you asked, and what you pretended you didn’t ask. 

I’m going to come back to the table. I’m going to sit next to you. I’m going to bump my shoulder against yours like it’s an accident. And I’m going to smile and say “Hi” like I’m meeting you for the first time.

And when you roll your eyes and tell me to shut up, I’m going to look at you with my inconvenient, opinion-making eyes and say:

Hi, Wilson.

I love you too.

— Zali