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Posted by u/goodfriend666 - 8 days ago

AITA for not telling my gf she was “contaminated” because I thought it was obvious?

I have been experiencing ongoing disagreements with my partner (20s), and the resulting tension has begun to affect our dynamic in ways I did not anticipate.

They are currently upset that I never explicitly told them they were “contaminated.” From my perspective, this was not something that required clarification. 

There had been indications for some time that something about them was not as it should be. During periods of close physical contact — for their privacy, I will not elaborate beyond noting that it did involve bathing in their blood — I observed irregularities that did not align with what I would consider typical.

Because of this, I assumed they were already aware, or at least capable of recognizing the same signs. It did not occur to me that it needed to be stated outright.

They now consider this a violation of trust, stating that I should have told them directly and sooner. They believe I allowed them to remain in that state without sufficient regard for their autonomy. This has caused significant strain, and their reaction has begun to impact my capacity to assist them effectively.

I find myself uncertain as to why this responsibility rests entirely with me. If something is sufficiently apparent, is it not reasonable to assume a shared understanding? I did not consider myself to be concealing anything.

What I struggle with most is the sudden fragility this has introduced into our relationship, especially the implication that our relationship is contingent on such explicit exchanges. I had not understood it to be so easily destabilized.

AITA for not explicitly informing them of something I believed they already understood?

2.3k comments | 3.1k upvotes

u/ohyesgodpls

Not gonna lie, this whole situation sounds wild. But yeah, you should’ve told them. If you noticed something was off and kept it to yourself, that’s gonna mess with the trust. So I’m going with YTA.

1.4k upvotes

u/iloveferns

Gonna go with ESH. You should’ve told them about the contamination, no doubt. But your gf also sounds like she’s blaming you for not saying something that might’ve been redundantly obvious. Still, mostly on you.

938 upvotes

u/kirinriki

Wait. You bathed in your GF’s blood??? Like that’s just casually part of your relationship??? I'm sorry, I’m gonna need more context before I can even figure out if YTA or if you and her both just out here doing DIY vampire spa days.

872 upvotes

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u/goodfriend666

I did not state the gender of my GF.

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        u/savvycavvy

        ok and??? where’s the context

        100 upvotes

u/loscabos

You said they're around 20, but you didn’t mention how old you are. Why do I get the weird feeling this is like... senior dates freshman type of scenario?

1.1k upvotes

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u/goodfriend666

Any predatory nature of our relationship has nothing to do with my age.

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        u/birbwantspotatoes

        ayo what the fuck does this mean

        66 upvotes

 

u/matchaqiqilin

See this is what happens when you start with snail mucin and end up in “blood of my partner ” territory. You people took K-beauty and turned it into Cthulhu-core.

393 upvotes

u/itsallshams

Not gonna lie, I had to reread this a few times because I thought I was missing something. Are you being metaphorical or... is this literal blood? Because I feel like that changes the entire situation.

701 upvotes

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u/goodfriend666

This was blood.

219 upvotes

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        u/lintvstan

        dude you still aren't telling us what the fuck does this whole thing mean

        503 upvotes

 

u/starsblossom

why do i feel like this is a creative writing prompt and i just read someone’s shitty vampire romance booktok age gap slop

2.8k upvotes

u/doomedyaoislays

People keep focusing on the blood thing (understandable), but what sticks out to me is the way you didn’t tell her something clearly important. If someone noticed something seriously wrong with me and kept quiet? I'd be pissed too.

210 upvotes

u/evilappeasenent

Regardless of whatever “contaminated” means in this case, your gf probably feels violated that you noticed something serious and didn’t say anything. That's a big trust issue. You need to apologize and start over with real communication.

582 upvotes

u/calamariwriter

The whole “bathing in their blood” thing just kind of dropped in the middle of the post like it was nothing. I don’t know how to process that.

1.9k upvotes

u/wtfoxes

Wait, how was it "obvious" that they were  contaminated? I feel like if someone said that to me I’d assume they were calling me dirty or sick, not... whatever this is.

839 upvotes

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u/goodfriend666

Their behavior clearly become less rational and more erratic as time went on.

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        u/bohreggs

        My guy. If you noticed that the least you could do is tell them?

        503 upvotes

u/lustrationlover

Not trying to be rude, but this sounds kind of made up. If it’s not, I hope both of you are okay... but maybe consider speaking to someone. Like a doctor. Or a therapist. This isn't hygenic.

3.1k upvotes

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u/goodfriend666

My GF has a colleague who may prove of interest in this case.

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        u/lustrationlover

        Dude... whoever that is, that's a clear conflict of interest.

        712 upvotes

 

r/AmITheAsshole

posted by u/financesmoker - 3 days ago

AITA for being mad at my friend for not telling me I was contaminated?

I (20s) recently found out from my friend (I don’t know his age) that I’ve apparently been contaminated for a while. He said he knew, but didn’t tell me because he thought it was “obvious.”

Like… no? How would I know that? He says he noticed when he bathed in my blood (long story, not the point), and I guess my blood didn’t look normal to her or whatever. But instead of saying anything, he just kept quiet.

Now he’s upset because I’m angry and complaining that I don’t trust him anymore. He thinks it’s unfair that I’m “letting our relationship fall apart over something small” and that we’re supposed to be “bound beyond flesh and time,” which, okay, cool, but maybe just tell me next time something is off with my literal body??

Anyway, now things are super tense and I feel kinda gaslit. He’s making me feel like I’m overreacting, but also? I feel like if you care for someone, you tell them if they’re mutating or cursed or... contaminated.

AITA?

5.1k upvotes

u/hojackwon

I’m trying really hard to understand this post. Bathing in blood aside, he noticed something was seriously wrong with you and didn’t tell you?? No, you’re NTA — he is, for keeping you in the dark.

2.3k upvotes

u/youngsilentcar

I’m gonna be honest, I thought this was about food poisoning or a UTI until the blood bathing part. Now I don’t know what I’m reading. Still, NTA for being upset he didn’t tell you something serious.

4.2k upvotes

u/25hz

wait… is this the other side of that post where the gf was mad her partner didn’t tell her she was “contaminated”?? like the one where the gf bathed in her blood?? is this her?

6.5k upvotes

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u/huelovingzorm

Either this is a weird coincidence or we’re watching a breakup happen in real time across two different AITA posts

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        u/goodfriend666

        We are not going to break up.

        12 upvotes

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                u/financesmoker

                I see you've already assumed that.

                9.4k upvotes

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                        u/doomedyaoislays

                        HOLY SHIT.

                        2.3k upvotes

u/frillydress

Bro is this a sequel?? Or a parallel post?? I remember the line “we’re GFs, are we not?” in a comment from that other thread and this sounds exactly like the other side of that situation.

299 upvotes

u/thecheeseman

IS THIS THE SAME RELATIONSHIP AS THE BLOOD BATH POST???

19 upvotes

u/marsisthebestplanet

Wait… so are you and the person from the other post actually together? Because their post says “we’re GFs” and this one says “my friend.” Just trying to figure out if y’all are dating or not??

4.8k upvotes

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u/goodfriend666

GF = good friend. I never said "girlfriend."

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        u/atiyon

        LMAOOO you let this whole comment section spiral into analyzing your relationship drama and just now drop this??

        2.1k upvotes

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                      u/queenshatama

                      “Bathed in my blood” was wild but somehow “gf = good friend” is the most unhinged part of this.

u/darkprettylatte

Can’t believe I read a thousand words of supernatural breakup lore just to find out y’all are besties??

4.3k upvotes