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PROJECT: HOW TO UNLOVE SOMEONE BEFORE GRADUATION
a step-by-step guide to surviving my final year of school without getting my heart broken
Okay, let’s see. I have approximately 10 months before graduation. I have been in love with the same person for longer than I am willing to write in this document. But it’s inevitable that when graduation comes, we go our separate ways, and my feelings will become irrelevant. All I have to do is stop feeling them before that happens, so I can finish high school with a smile on my face instead of being heartbroken over the fact that I will most likely never see him again. This plan is practical, and it includes backup options in case something fails. Yeah, this is fine. Let’s begin.
- Acknowledge the problem. You like him. The feelings aren’t going away on their own, and that’s why this list exists.
- Minimise exposure.
a. Stop looking at him.
b. Avoid all shared spaces.
c. Do not linger after class.
d. Never initiate conversation. - Do not give fate any opportunities. If you happen to be near him, that is fine. Make sure you treat it as a neutral event. Do not read into it. Establish emotional distance. You can be in the same room. You can even be cordial.
- Stop noticing things. This one is critical. The things you keep noticing are the problem. You do not need to know his opinions on things or what makes him laugh, or what makes him happy. You especially do not need to keep a separate mental catalogue of these. Stop that.
- Recognise that he is like this with everyone. It is not special. You are not special to him. You are a classmate, or possibly a vague acquaintance. This is fine and normal. Popular people are warm with everyone—that is what being popular means. Do not mistake kindness for something it isn’t. (Say it with me: He. Is. Like. This. With. Everyone.)
- Do not read into things. A look is a look. A coincidence is a coincidence. Fate is not real, and nothing means anything beyond what it is. If he is quiet, he is probably tired. If he seems off, he might just be distracted. It is not about you. Most things are not about you.
- Do not let one good interaction undo everything. One conversation is not a sign sent by the universe that you two are meant to be. It is just a conversation. Everyone has conversations.
- If feelings escalate: redirect. Find someone else to think about. There are other people. You have been going to this school for years. Just pick someone and focus on them instead. Easy.
- If something goes wrong anyway, give it space. Let it pass. Time makes us forget.
- Graduate. Leave. There is a finish line approaching fast. In November, he will go one way, and you will go another, and that will be that.
- Do not, under any circumstances, convince yourself that it could work out. It won’t. Be realistic.
This plan is airtight. I have thought of everything. By graduation, I will be completely over him, and it will not cost me anything important. Ten months, and then it’s over. You can do this.
Signing off with lots of love,
Ahn Keonho, who is doing great and is not worried at all.
