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r/AmItheAsshole ⃝ 7 hr. ago
AITA for potentially being insensitive to my crush?
I (19M) had a falling out with my crush (19M) recently. My older brother likes to use this site to get opinions after arguments with his girlfriends, so I thought I’d give it a shot as I am not sure how to proceed.
For context, I work for my father in our family business and a few weeks ago I was picking up a business partner from the airport as part of our work. While there I ran into some people relevant to our business also arriving to stay in the country for work reasons. I decided I needed to keep an eye on them and reached out to a contact specialising in tailing services; enter my crush.
We’d met while he was working another job thanklessly waiting tables for peanuts. I quickly realised his talents were wasted there and offered to hire him should the need arise, to which he agreed. We didn’t have much contact until he also started to work with my aforementioned business partner. He picked up work modelling and reached fame very quickly - and became my ticket into certain events, i.e. parties. I won’t disclose exactly which agency, but rest assured, it was very hard for people to turn him away, and I was able to settle a lot of deals. It really does pay to have a pretty face by your side.
Although I got the impression he was mostly agreeing to come with me because of the free food and drinks (though I never saw him eat…?) He was also surprisingly helpful at smoothing things over when I was too calculating, or insensitive, and saved my deals more than once. I didn’t even realise when, but I caught feelings without noticing. It became our routine. Which is why I didn’t think much of it until I reached out about this job.
From the first meeting I had set up between my crush and the others, something was off. He felt unsure about the whole thing, where before he hadn’t had any such qualms. I found out from my business partner that my crush and the others had gotten into a bar fight, and they’d all bonded over the experience. I’d thought it was a good thing, and that they’d be more willing to reveal and divulge information, but it just forced my crush to confront that what he was doing wasn’t exactly honest.
I assured him I didn’t have bad intentions, but he just muttered under his breath about how that sounded exactly like something someone with bad intentions would say. It strained our relationship to the point that he refused to accept a birthday present from me, which really hurt my feelings as I had spent quite a lot of time making a friendship bracelet for him.
Things came to a head when a confrontation with my business partner and the others went south and my partner was almost killed - keyword being almost. He decided to maintain the illusion of his death to stop any further attempts on his life and I later picked him up from the morgue to help him escape. I knew about the true events that had transpired but my crush was at the cinema watching a movie with me at the time when he got the news. He had stopped by to let me know that he would no longer be tailing the others or working for me as he didn’t feel comfortable tailing people he now considered friends, which was devastating.
I didn’t even get to show him my high score on tetris (600k+) before he got the call that my partner, his boss, had “died”. I of course wasn't disturbed as I already knew the truth, but my crush was distraught. Apparently they had become very close after my partner had saved his life, and they had some kind of office-romance-situationship going on.
I asked my crush if he wanted to continue watching the movie, and he became very upset, immediately running off to confirm the death for himself. I only realised afterwards that from his perspective it may have been insensitive to ask - we haven’t spoken since and he’s been ignoring all my calls and texts.
Was it wrong of me to want to spend more time with my crush when I knew the situation wasn’t serious?
AITA for potentially being insensitive?
I’m autistic btw, if that helps.
fire-dog14
what the hell did i just read
just_some_guyy
ikr
logarithmicsaviour-567
does anybody else feel like op is really shady 😂😬
Xavier (Original Poster)
I assure you, I don’t have bad intentions.
Zealousphilosopher_3
wth. This story was clearly made up for engagement
JEMA_walker00
Then why are you giving it engagement…
Mimo-mambo-456
Uhhhh dude idk if this is real but if so then YTA bigtime, that was not cool. Sidestepping all the sus stuff, i’d start by apologising to your crush and telling them their other boss is still alive. If they were trustworthy and competent enough for you to appreciate their talents on previous assignments, they should be good to tell now.
Xavier (Original Poster)
Finally something useful. I’ll think about it.
flip-2011
600k on tetris holy shoot
current-dessert-8902
Out of everything in this post, you rlly chose to focus on that huh?
wise-wizard-77
Hey, man, as someone else with autism i know how hard it can be to gauge social situations like this (and how easy it is to get sucked into a good game of tetris LOL) but unfortunately YTA, i think. Your crush is clearly very upset by your actions, although they may also have their judgement clouded by grief. Give them some time, then please for the love of god, tell them the truth. Dishonesty’s one of the reasons they wanted to stop working with you, after all. A little bit of truth might be enough to win them back. Good luck x
Xavier (Original Poster)
…I didnt think of it like that. Thanks.
ooohhhhh-noooooo-111
A famous model huh?? C’mon tell ussss
Xavier (Original Poster)
No.
anxious-lemon
NTA, this is funny as hell
motorsporter-999
Yta
5-blueblacksmith
Yta
ekaterina-8006
Yta
PlanetofSnoop
Yta
stable-table-343
Yta
gay_llama9000
sdkkfkkldfljkdf I hate gay people so much bro 😭 what is wrong with you (edit for the people starting a war in the replies: IM GAY TOO. if you couldnt already tell from my username.)
UPDATE: AITA for potentially being insensitive to my crush?
For everyone asking: yes my partner is fine now, although ever since coming back from the “dead”, he’s been having the strangest cravings. The other day he tried to eat me. I'm sure it's nothing.
spicyquesadilla8
im sorry, is nobody going to mention that the business partner now apparently craves human flesh?! No?? Cool cool, just checking.
okkimmy57
Not even the worst thing on this post by a mile, bro.
dazai-kinnie-15
Average toxic yaoi lol
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