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Posted by Metr0s-go35
AITA for not supporting my best friend’s relationship?
Me and S met at work many years ago, and we have been inseparable ever since. He is my best man, the godfather of my children and still comes round for family dinners.
A few years ago, I noticed a pattern. We travel a lot for work and every time we went to a specific city, he would go out to meet a mysterious girl, saved in his phone as Lily. Whenever I asked about her, he would deny it or say it was just a friend; I assumed it was just a reflection of his reserved nature, so I didn’t press him.
Everything changed a few months ago, when S sat down with me and my wife and came out as gay, said that ‘Lily’ was actually a man and that they were now in a serious relationship.
So far, so good; the problem arose when he revealed Lily’s true identity. It turns out his mysterious girl was R, a total jerk that worked for a rival company, who I thought we both agreed to hate.
I don’t have a problem with S being gay, really, but R is a complete asshole and I don’t understand what my sweet friend sees in him.
My friend is kind, R has a tongue sharp as a razor, hurling insults at anyone in his path.
S had like, two girlfriends in his whole life. R is a total womaniser, who collects chicks like Pokémon cards.
When my wife suggested a dinner with them, I knew it would not end well, and guess what? I was right. R was as mischievous and annoying as always but, for my concern, my wife was enchanted by his "strong personality". I snapped and questioned R’s sudden interest in men and said in no uncertain terms that my friend deserved better. S got furious (with both of us, but mostly at me), as if I was the problem there.
My wife said I was being petty, that R loved S enough to quit a prestigious job and trade to a small company just to be closer to S, so we needed to give him a chance. She thinks they're living some crazy love story, like in one of her soap operas, but this is fucking real life, no one makes such a drastic decision without second interests.
The final straw came two weeks ago, when my wife had a small accident and we had to go to hospital. We asked S to look after the children and guess what? His "boyfriend" came along too. I was worried he’d snap with my children, make them cry or say something stupid, but what happened was so much worse: We got home and the kids were shining, chattering away about the amazing day they had with Uncle S and Uncle R.
Yes, my own children, calling the biggest thorn in my side ‘Uncle’, as if he was family.
My daughters couldn’t stop talking about how fun it was to play princesses with Uncle R. My son showed off his painted nails and said with childish indignation that "Uncle R said you were being silly. Painting nails is not just for girls!"
The idiot was also meddling in my children’s education.
Since that day, they've been asking nonstop when "their uncles" will babysit again. My wife loved the idea and said we could use some time alone before I have to travel again, but I refused; I’d rather die than owe that dickhead anything else.
Now I’m the villain; my wife is giving me the cold shoulder since that conversation. S doesn’t text as often anymore and I know R has something to do with that.
u/goldenboyz-judge
Mate, I think u want to fuck your bestfriend.
u/Pinkinkprincess
The biphobia is CRAZY
u/censgirliee
His boyfriend is the smallest problem here. Your wife asks for a day off and you turn her down over some bloody petty nonsense?
u/tomatoshater
Yeah, right, because it’s totally not homophobic to teach your son that nail polish is only for girls.
u/stupidwolfbird
YTA and I think your wife needs divorce.