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AITAH for planning to fake my own death just to see if my BF finally admits he loves me?

Summary:

I (30M) have been in a thing with this guy (32M) for years. We basically function like an old married couple. Except—HE. WILL. NOT. ADMIT. IT.

So, I had an idea.

Chapter 1

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janeaustenlover0229

 

AITAH for planning to fake my own death just to see if my BF finally admits he loves me?

So, I (30M) have been in a thing with this guy (32M) for years. We work together, spend most nights together, have saved each other’s lives more times than I can count, and basically function like an old married couple. Except—HE. WILL. NOT. ADMIT. IT.

I mean, I get it. He’s emotionally constipated. He broods for fun. His love language is gruff insults followed by expensive gifts. But come on. We literally go on date nights (he calls them “stakeouts,” but I’m not an idiot). He makes me breakfast. One time, he got hit with Scarecrow’s fear toxin (he’s a Gothamite, it happens) and instead of hallucinating monsters, his worst fear was me leaving him.

And yet, whenever anyone even dare to imply we’re together, he just gives them that stupid non-answer smirk and changes the subject.

I’ve literally died before (Long story. I got better.) And when I came back? He just gave me one of those deep, soul-crushing looks and went, “Took you long enough.” NO HUG. NO “I MISSED YOU.” Nothing.

So, I had an idea.

What if I fake my death—just for a little while? Like, a day, max. Let’s see if he finally breaks and tells me how he feels. Surely, then he’d finally admit he loves me, right? Maybe even get a little teary-eyed? I’d come back, hug him, tell him it was all a test, and everything would be great.

I ran this plan by a close friend (let’s call her D.), and she said it was, quote, “the most unhinged thing I’ve ever heard, and you should be banned from making plans forever.” But I think it’s a solid strategy.

So, reddit, AITAH for planning to put my loved ones through mild emotional trauma for personal research purposes??

 

 

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throwaway_luvr420

Bro. This is not a ‘mild’ emotional trauma situation. This is ‘your BF will need therapy for years’ levels of messed up.

janeaustenlover0229 [OP] – Okay but he already kinda acts like he needs therapy and refuses to go so like… maybe this will be the push he needs?

HngryHeiHei

So let me get this straight—you already died once, he barely processed it, and your genius idea is to do it again?? Babe, do you even LIKE this man??”

janeaustenlover0229 [OP] – Ofc I like him, he’s my best friend. Also technically the first time wasn’t my fault (Long story)

relationship_advisor_99

Ok but what’s your endgame here? Let’s say it works, he confesses, you pop back up like ‘surprise!’ …How do you expect him to react?

Skylarium_Rose

I cannot stress this enough: DO NOT DO THIS. This isn’t romance IT’S PSYCHOLOGICAL WARFARE. For the sake of Jane Austen DON’T DO IT. He’ll block you op.

janeaustenlover0229 [OP] – Okay but if I block HIM he’d just find me anyway, so idk if this is a fair comparison

2hot2handle

Honestly? If he hasn’t said it after YEARS, he’s not gonna say it just bc he thinks you’re dead. If anything, he’s gonna double down and never love again. You tryna break this man permanently?

beefysteve88

Dude. Men do weird shit with grief. My uncle thought my aunt’s ghost was haunting him for a YEAR. Do you really wanna risk this man spiraling into full-blown insanity?

tacobellmidnight

YTA. If my BF pulled this I would go full supervillain out of spite.

threekingbelt

INFO: What exactly makes you think this man will respond with a love confession instead of, idk, a full-on breakdown?????

harpsichordsandthelit

Lowkey, I wanna say NTA because I wanna see what happens. But also. YTA. But also. DO IT.

Ringharu – Why would you say that???

janeaustenlover0229 [OP] – See this is the kind of support I was looking for

          Ringharu – OP NO

 

Chapter 2: UPDATE

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janeaustenlover0229

 

UPDATE: AITAH for planning to fake my own death just to see if my BF finally admits he loves me?

I did it.

And… yeah, it went exactly how everyone predicted it would—badly.

Here’s what happened:

I followed through with the plan. I made sure there was a very convincing accident (don’t worry, I wasn’t actually hurt), and then I “disappeared.” I even got a good friend of mine to help me act dead for a few hours, which is a thing I can actually do.

I had everything set up: fake accident, I disappeared, no sign of me for a couple of hours or a day, and then I was going to “come back” and reveal it was all just a test. Thought I’d finally get the big confession.

Instead, here’s what went down:

I panicked and had to come clean a lot earlier than I wanted to—like, after two hours instead of the plan to wait a full day because he was about to go full vigilante mode, hunting down whoever he thought was responsible for my “death.”. When I finally showed up, expecting a hug or a tearful “I love you,” what I got instead was screaming. And I’m not talking about “overwhelmed with emotion” screaming. No. It was the “I was about to track someone down, kill them, then possibly kill myself” kind of screaming. He immediately started pacing, muttering to himself about how “I can’t believe I trusted you” and “What the hell is wrong with you?”

Then… silence. Nothing. No hug, no follow-up, just dead air.

So, I told him it was all a test, and he failed it because he didn’t admit he loved me.

He stared at me for a solid five minutes. Finally, he said, “You’re lucky I don’t actually kill you right now.” And then… he walked away.

I’ve been sleeping on the couch for almost a week now. No big arguments, just an awkward silence. But here's the twist: there’s this weird gentleness from him. Not in a big way, but I’ve noticed him making sure I eat, leaving a coat for me when it’s cold, little things that say he’s still trying. He hasn’t outright admitted anything, but I get the feeling he’s not as distant as he was before.

Honestly? I don’t regret it. Sure, I didn’t get the confession I was hoping for (yet), but something changed. I see a shift in him, even if it’s tiny.

I’m never doing this again though. It was way too much—too much for me, for him. I really don’t want him going full Batman on me again (pun intended, he’s a Gothamite after all).

Lesson learned: Some things should stay dead. Like my plans.

TL;DR: Faked my death for 2 hours to see if my BF would admit he loves me. He nearly went vigilante on me, and now I’ve been sleeping on the couch for a week. He’s been gentler with me, though, so I guess it worked? But I won’t do it again.

 

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harpsichordsandthelit

Wait isn't Superman just died and came back in like two hours last week?

 

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Chapter 3: Am I tripping or Superman posted in r/AITAH and it got taken down?

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harpsichordsandthelit

 

Am I tripping or Superman posted in r/AITAH and it got taken down?

I don’t know where to post so imma just post it here.

So have you guy seen a post in r/AITAH about a crazy dude who want to fake his own death to dig if his boyfriend love him? I swear it was a hot topic but after the update went up the guy said he faked his death for two hours and had been sleeping on the couch for like a week and I commented like didn’t superman literally died last week and came back in two hour? And the post was removed by mod. I can’t find any trace of it and no one talk about it but I don’t think I’m tripping. Is it me or glitch in the matrix or shit?

 

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matrix_vibes

you're not tripping. I saw that post too. I remember reading it, and the whole fake-death-for-a-relationship thing was wild. Then poof, gone. It’s like they erased it from existence. I'm starting to think this is some weird glitch.

discoatthepanic

Hold up, I swear I commented on that post! I even made a joke about Superman's death comeback. I went to check back, and the whole thing vanished like it never existed. Something definitely weird went on

conspiracy_theory_boi

Someone seriously needs to investigate what's going on with r/AITAH. Mods acting like that post never happened? Nah, that's gotta be a glitch. I saw it, I commented, and now it's like it was wiped off the face of the internet.

badumbadumbumba - I heard r/AITAH mods got threaten and paid off to put the post down, not exactly a glitch.

superbatisreal

Wait, hold up. Does this mean Superman has a boyfriend? Oh my god, is it Batman?? That would explain so much. The whole ‘I’m about to go full vigilante mode’ thing...

 

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