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my (17M) best friend (18M) kissed me. wtf do i do?
tw: assault, technically
around last month i told my best friend i have a crush on him. he said he doesnt like me back which is fjne im not too salty abt it lol even if he was majorly a dick abt it. if hes still my friend i can live with it and move on
that was the plan at least but a few days later he started FLIRTING with me??? idk how yo describe it but he just was and he even asked me out on a date. i thought he was joking so i said why tf woul we do that if HES not into me but then he said some bs "you still like me so you should be grateful for the chance to date me" ok no lmao he didnt say that but its been a month so i dont remember js that i didnt fw it. it WAS that stupid tho trust
neway weird but again still fine. but then then started avoiding me out of nowhere and it pmo so bad bc what. what is ts whats he evn tryna do
then a week ago I was talking (just talking)to this girl (before I confessed to my friend actually told me to ask her out) then he butted in to flirt with her but hes literally gay so wtf???
we got in a fight bc of it(not in publuc) and in the middle of it he KISSED ???? me all of the sudden. i told him to stop but he just bit me and shoved his tounge down my throat until i pushed him away and asked wtf he thought he was doing. and i kid you tf not his answer was "isnt this what you wanted?"
so i punched him. on the face. BUT hes probably fr insane or something because he just KISSED ME AGAIN (except no tounge this time) ??? i dont know. I DONT KNOW. i just screamed at him until he left
like i said its been a week. we still havent talked bc now IM avouding him but now that im thinking abt it maybe i overreacyed? icl im actually so tilted rn i cant even focus on anything any more abt thinking abt losing him makes me sick but thinking abt talkj g to him makes me sicl too so so what now. idk if im even still into him or not. but ngl i wouldnt even mind if he just asked fitst or if he js... idk. actually explained himself fuck
qhat should i do now
TLDR: my friend kissed me twice and idk why or what his damage is or what his problem is and now idk what to do
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WTF? This post is just red flags everywhere. Why did you even like him in the first place?
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idk man dont ask me. i like red ig
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it's not "technically" assault. he did assault you, whether you like him or not
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fine ill edit it later
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Edit the typos too, this is nigh unreadable. Also, it's *tongue.
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fuckyoufuckyuofuckyou
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And it's all of *a sudden, by the way. Not the.
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op maybe you should take this more seriously...? this is a genuinely violating experience and it's not healthy to just brush it off!
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First off, I'm so sorry he did this to you. He shouldn't have (like you said, he should've at least asked first). You didn't overreact at all, you were just defending yourself, and he 100% deserved it. Second, from what I gleaned, he's most likely either manipulating you or playing with your feelings, but hopefully not! With friends like that, who needs enemies? It is possible he reciprocates, but has hang-ups about it, whatever they may be. Don't bet on it, though.
What you do now depends on if you want to stay friends with him or not. Or, God forbid (since you're unsure if you still like him), pursue a relationship with him. Either way, if you want to keep contact with him, make sure you have a long conversation about trust, boundaries, and honesty. I cannot understate the importance of communication here.
But like everyone else has said, you're allowed to cut ties with him. You don't owe him anything, especially after this. Whatever you do, navigating this will be difficult, especially since you're both still young. I can't stop you from choosing to stay friends, but I will say I personally absolutely wouldn't. None of this sounds like a healthy foundation for any kind of relationship, platonic or romantic. So please, kid. Have some self-respect.
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wow talk abt patronizing
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ykw ofc i know how hard this is gonna be of coursr i know how fucked up this is but i cantimagine being without hima nd im so scared i jyst miss him and I HATE HIM i hate him so fucking much but hes right im a chud fuckign loser i cant stop crhing when j think abt him but i cant stop tbinkjng abt him why is hecalways like this why is he alwUs so dhwvskavsjsvsj FUCK U FUCK UR SELFRESPECT
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NTA what the hell dude just cut him off
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no
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Wrong subreddit
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I seriously thought this just sounded like internalized homophobia on his end, but then you mentioned he's gay (openly?) so now I'm extra confused
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me too lol
hes half in the closet bc he thinks "coming out is annoying" so only 3? people including me know
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he can be gay and still have internalized homophobia, is the thing.
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Or maybe OP's just ugly and his friend's embarrassed to like him
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btw do you guys knwo any good adblockers
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